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The Time We Turned Down A “Sure Thing”

September 10th, 2018 1 comment

It seemed too good to be true.

We were both into a woman who was just as into me as she was M1.

That NEVER happens.

Generally speaking, when we dip our toes into the shallow end of the extramarital relationship/sex pool, I am simply an obstacle to get around to the women we meet. It’s at least half the reason we stopped looking.

If the only people who are interested in Master are women who are hoping to outdo me in some way (and, in many cases, push me out of the relationship completely), then what’s the point? A polyamorous relationship is not a competition. Nobody wins when the people involved treat it as such.

I mean, I get it. Guys like him are one in a million. These women watch him interact with me and see how awesome he is, and how awesome our relationship is, and they want that, too. Read more…

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The Me I Used To Be

November 12th, 2015 2 comments

“You can spend minutes, hours, days, weeks, or even months over-analyzing a situation; trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could've, would've happened... or you can just leave the pieces on the floor and move the fuck on.”  ― Tupac ShakurSo one day, years ago, M and I are walking through Walmart, and I see this girl pushing a cart with a little girl who looks almost just like her standing in the back. It took me a minute, but I recognized the girl pushing the cart as Marcy1, a girl who used to babysit my kids and whose family took me and the babies in when our house burned down. Not one to ignore a person who did such a wonderful thing for me, I stopped to say hello.

When she recognized me, she stiffened, as if bracing herself for bullshit.

I was confused.

We hadn’t spoken in years. When M and I moved downstate, I pretty much stopped talking to everyone upstate. I mean, they were one of the deciding factors in our move. That town was (probably still is) toxic, and the people in it were always up to no good (myself included), and M and I wanted a clean break. Plus, M wasn’t particularly interested in having a bunch of people I’d slept with hanging around all the time, and I’d slept with most of my ‘friends’. Read more…

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NS(K)Q: Q54 – Not A Happy Secret

August 7th, 2015 2 comments

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 54:

I just found out I’m a secret. I’m not really sure how, because I’ve had dinner with the wife, but she for sure doesn’t know. I’m not feeling it. At all. I have no idea how to handle this. Should I confront him? Should I tell her? At the same time? Separately? What do you think?

Ouch.

Okay, calm down, and don’t do anything stupid. That’s what I’d be telling myself in your situation.

Falling under the heading ‘Anything Stupid’ would be confronting him and telling her at the same time. You literally just found out. You have no idea what the situation is. Read more…

NS(K)Q: Q42 – I need more.

December 12th, 2014 2 comments

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 42:

I’ve been married for thirty years, give or take a few. You hear all these stereotypes about how men are insanely sexual creatures, some even needing multiple partners to sate their appetites, but my husband is just not. In the past ten years, we’ve had sex twice, and I initiated both times. We’ve talked about it till we’re blue in the face, and nothing’s ever changed. Masturbation’s just not fun anymore. I really long for the touch of another. And since reading your site, I’ve realized I’m really turned on by some of the things you get up to. But I think I’m more of a switch. I’m so confused, and kinda resentful, and I’ve got no idea where to go from here. I’ve begun to look elsewhere, and I’m wondering…should I be talking to my husband about this? Halp!

Uhm…yeah?

I’m not trying to be a dick, here, but if you’re in a relationship in which one person believes the relationship is monogamous, and you’re considering seeking attention elsewhere, the first person who knows that should always be your partner. No matter what. You owe him that much. Read more…

Cheating is my trigger.

October 4th, 2013 3 comments
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image by Melen – click to enlarge

I dunno if I’ve mentioned this, but I’m judging e[lust] now. I mean, not right now, but when it’s time, each month, I sit myself at my laptop and dive headlong into reading post after post of sex advice, erotica, and sex bloggers’ conversations with themselves about whatever was on their minds when they wrote the post they submitted. I love doing this because it gives me a reason other than “Oh, I’ve been meaning to check in on soandso.” to stick my nose in everyone else’s life. I am, without a doubt, a voyeur.

On the flip side, this also means I have to read things that piss me the fuck off.

There was a post about…well, I’m not entirely sure what the writer was trying to say, exactly. It seems their main message was that no relationship will ever survive if the people involved only have sex with each other. But some of the points dangerously toed the line of suggesting infidelity1, while others seemed to outright promote it. And I wanted to bang my head on my desk.

I don’t give a fuck what the problem is; infidelity is not the answer.  Read more…

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