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#LoveWins! Hallelujah!

June 26th, 2015 Comments off

2015-06-15-1434339383-4826660-PrideFlag1The New York Times headline reads, Same-Sex Marriage Is a Right, Supreme Court Rules, 5-4.

You could almost hear LGBT people and LGBT allies around the nation screaming in excitement.

I’m pretty much speechless. Fuck yeah, marriage equality. It’s about time we did something right.

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NS(K)Q: Q51 – What is erotic spanking?

June 26th, 2015 1 comment

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 51:

I know this sounds like a really dumb question, but my parents spanked me, and I can’t imagine that ever being erotic. What is erotic spanking? And why do people get off on it?

It’s not a dumb question, actually. It’s a totally logical question. Especially from someone who was spanked as a child. Read more…

Kinktionary: Soft Limits

June 26th, 2015 Comments off

KffPVLwAxul2A1AcDL-300x298Soft limits can be things you’ve never done, things that you don’t really like (but are willing to do anyway), or boundaries that you’re willing to push. Just like hard limits, these can be anything from a spanking to a golden shower.

Standard operating procedure for many tops is to provide a BDSM checklist (like this one here), on which a new play partner can rate their interests in specific fetishes and ‘normal’ BDSM activities. This gives the top a clear idea of which activities they need to stay away from and which ones they can play with.

Just because you’re willing to try something eventually doesn’t mean you have to try it right this very second with the person who asked you about it. While soft limits can be pushed, they don’t have to be. You always, always have the right to decide when your limits are pushed and by who no matter which side of the slash you identify with (see: consent).

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NS(K)Q: Q50 – Master doesn’t like my fetish.

June 19th, 2015 Comments off

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 50:

There’s this thing that I need to be fully satisfied. My master is not at all into it. In fact, it kind of disgusts him. He loves me and doesn’t want to give me up, and I’m not interested in going anywhere, either. I don’t know what to do. HALP!

That’s a tough situation.

Some folks in the lifestyle would tell you it’s just tough all around. Many believe a slave’s purpose is to serve and please their owner without the expectation of being fulfilled in return. These people would say slaves don’t have a specific right or entitlement to wish fulfillment. Any fulfillment allowed by their owner should be considered a gift and cherished as such. Read more…

Kinktionary: Hard Limits

June 19th, 2015 Comments off

988417Hard limits are things that you absolutely will not do, period, end of sentence, no matter what. They are things that no one should try to coerce or force you into doing (unless you’re into that sort of thing; see consent to non-consent).

Things that people often list as ‘hard limits’ are drugs, bestiality, pedophilia1, scat, and vomit. Occasionally included in that list are urine, fire play, blood letting, permanent marks or damage, broken bones. However, literally anything can be a hard limit, so you will come across folks with limits like spanking, whips, nipple clamps, pain, bondage, etc.

You should never ever feel ashamed or embarrassed about your hard limits. Everyone has different life experiences and desires, and a person’s particular hard limits are often directly related to those things.

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1. Most people in today’s society consider this a given, but sadly, the BDSM community isn’t devoid of sick fucks. Some ‘consensual slave owners’ claim that once they own a person, they own that person’s children, as well, and have the right to do whatever they wish with them. This, of course, is wrong and illegal. No one can give consent to ownership or sex for another person, and especially not for a minor child.

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I’m always going to get mine.

June 16th, 2015 1 comment

My stomach sank when he said it.

I was on my knees in front of him. His beautiful cock was buried deep in my throat. His hands were fisted in my hair. And my mind was going a mile a minute, trying to figure out what I’d done wrong.

“You’re supposed to be a teasy slut,” he said. “Did you forget how to turn me on?”

My blood ran cold. He’d come to me, naked, fresh from the shower. His hands had found my tits, and I had given a half hearted lick to his stomach, my hands in my lap, as if I had no god damned sense in my head.

“Don’t you think your hand should be on that when it’s that close?” he had asked.

I had grinned sheepishly and wrapped my hand around his cock, but I definitely had lacked that certain something that says, “This is what I want to be doing.”

That’s no bueno. Read more…

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