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Kinktionary: Consent

February 27th, 2015 Comments off

consent-is-mandatoryConsent, literally defined, is permission. In a BDSM setting, consent is the only thing separating sadomasochism from assault.

Consent is required for each and every act in a play session, sex, any touching, a relationship, collaring, setting a relationship dynamic, a change in relationship dynamic…Consent cannot be coerced or forced.

Consent in BDSM is a fluid thing, and can be revoked at any time. This means that at any point during a relationship or play session, a person (dominant, submissive, or switch) is allowed and expected to speak up when their partner delves into an area they’re not comfortable with. This is often one of the reasons for incorporating a safe word into a play session or relationship, but using a safe word is not a requirement to revoke a person’s consent. Read more…

Kinktionary: Masochism

February 20th, 2015 Comments off

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One of the words referenced in the acronym “BDSM“.

Masochism is gaining pleasure, sexual or otherwise, from having pain inflicted on your person. Masochism has many levels, some of which are unhealthy. However, masochism by itself is no longer considered a mental defect by the medical community, and was omitted from The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM).

Masochism, as it pertains to BDSM, is the enjoyment of having pain inflicted on your body with your full knowledge and consent, and sometimes your direction. A masochist may enjoy physical or emotional pain, or both. They usually derive some sort of sexual gratification from the act, but they don’t always.

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Kinktionary: Sadism

February 6th, 2015 1 comment

from DreamsOfSpanking.com

from DreamsOfSpanking.com – See full vid here.

One of the words referenced in the acronym “BDSM“.

Sadism is gaining pleasure, sexual or otherwise, from seeing someone else in pain and/or causing that pain. Sadism has many levels, some of which are unhealthy. However, sadism by itself is no longer considered a mental defect by the medical community, and was omitted from The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM).

Sadism, as it pertains to BDSM, is the enjoyment of seeing someone else in pain or causing that pain with their full knowledge and consent. A sadist may enjoy seeing someone in physical or emotional anguish, or both. They usually derive some sort of sexual gratification from the act, but they don’t always.

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February 5th, 2015 No comments

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Kinktionary: Submission

January 30th, 2015 1 comment

found here - if you are or know the photographer, please let me know so I can give proper credit

found here – if you are or know the photographer, please let me know so I can give proper credit

One of the words referenced in the acronym “BDSM“.

To submit is to give up control. The act of submission, as it pertains to BDSM, is the consensual relinquishing of control to another person, usually (but not always) a dominant. The control can be service or sexually oriented, both, neither. It all depends on the desires of the people involved.

A person who likes to submit to people can fall anywhere on the gender or sexuality spectrum. The level of control a submissive relinquishes to their dominant varies from relationship to relationship, and sometimes from encounter to encounter. Submission may include masochistic play, or it may not. Submission may include bondage, or it may not. Ultimately, what it all boils down to is control, however that manifests for the people involved.

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Kinktionary: Domination

January 23rd, 2015 1 comment

found here - if you are or know the photographer, please let me know so I can give proper credit.

found here – if you are or know the photographer, please let me know so I can give proper credit.

One of the words referenced in the acronym “BDSM“.

To dominate is to rule, govern, or control. Domination, in the context of BDSM, is the consensual exertion of control over a person, usually (but not always) a submissive. The control can be service or sexually oriented, both, neither. It all depends on the desires of the people involved.

A person who likes to dominate other people can fall anywhere on the gender or sexuality spectrum. The level of domination a dominant is allowed to exert over a submissive varies from relationship to relationship, and sometimes from encounter to encounter. Domination may include sadistic play, or it may not. Domination may include bondage, or it may not. Ultimately, what it all boils down to is control, however that manifests for the people involved.

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