Posts Tagged ‘women’s issues’

So I’m a woman. And?

January 21st, 2015 1 comment

imageOn Friday, we went to an office party. I freaked the fuck out about what I was going to wear.

Since Master’s back surgery, we haven’t done a whole lot of exercising, and I’ve gained back all the weight I lost when we were trying to escape the oppression of our old house, plus about thirty pounds.

This doesn’t matter to him. He’s regained a lot of the weight (but not as much as I have), too, and he’s got a thing for fat chicks (which goes really well with my thing for fat dudes) so it literally doesn’t matter. Except that I have very few clothes, even less that fit me, and very few of those are fancy enough for corporate business affairs. Hence the freakout.

If I was a man, I wouldn’t have to do this. If I was a man, I would be able to throw on the same tired button-down/tie combo I’ve worn to every fancy thing I’ve attended since I stopped growing, and not think twice about it. Maybe I’ll mix it up a little, and wear a different tie, but ultimately, the only thing that matters is that I’m clean, well groomed, and have fucking clothes on. No one notices what guys wear. Read more…

Don’t call me baby.

December 22nd, 2014 6 comments

Do you remember this post I wrote back in May 2013? I won’t blame you if you don’t. There are so freakin many posts with similar points floating around the sex blogosphere that even as I wrote it, I felt like one person in the middle of Times Square at the stroke of New Year’s trying to make sure my Auld Lang Syne was heard over everyone else’s.

Plus, that was almost two years ago. So, you know, I’ll pretend my feelings aren’t hurt. ~dramatic sniffle~

So I wrote it for a couple reasons (mentioned in the post), but the straw that broke the camel’s back was a flirty dirty old man from UniteBlue who kept hitting on me despite my polite attempts to shoot him down and constant reminders that I was happily, monogamously married. After I wrote the post, and tweeted it 903489825287234857 times in a passive-aggressive attempt to get the point across without dealing with a response a la #ByeFelipe, he stopped. I didn’t know if he realized he was the straw that broke the camel’s back, or if he just realized I wasn’t into what he was doing, and I didn’t care. He stopped. Hallelujah.

We still chatted from time to time in @s on Twitter. Usually about M’s back, or the no longer flirty man’s health conditions, or his girlfriend. And then, one day, early this year, he disappeared. Read more…

PSA Re: #SCOTUS #HobbyLobby Ruling – How You Can Help

July 14th, 2014 6 comments
Ashley L. Conti | BDN found  here

Ashley L. Conti | BDN
found here

This is just a quick PSA and a call for support.

As most people who pay attention to repro-rights know, the Supreme Court of the United States (SCOTUS) has ruled that a company’s right to religious freedom trumps a woman’s right to choose her birth control, despite the fact that the Affordable Care Act (Obamacare) mandates employers cover the cost of birth control. You can find the ruling in full here and the New York Times coverage of the ruling (which is much easier to read) here.

After the ruling was announced, and the country exploded in outrage (aside from a few Christians who believe “religious freedom” means forcing their religion on others), SCOTUS further explained their ruling, extending Hobby Lobby’s exemption to all birth control.

This ruling explicitly ignores the fact that birth control is not simply to prevent unwanted pregnancy. In fact, many women and young girls have been prescribed birth control to treat illnesses and other health issues like endometriosis and polycystic ovary syndrome. After the ruling, one woman @’ed me to tell me her child is on birth control to control epileptic seizures that could kill her.

Okay, okay. This happened. We can’t make it un-happen. But we can do something, right?

Yes. We can. And that’s why I’m writing.

There’s an act being written as we speak to reverse this ruling and prevent something like this from happening in the future.

From the NARAL Pro-Choice America site:

When the Supreme Court ruled in Hobby Lobby’s favor and gave bosses power to decide whether their employees would get birth control coverage, people all over the country responded with outrage and turned to Congress to right this wrong. Your voice was heard.

Pro-choice champions in Congress introduced the “Not My Boss’ Business” Act. If passed, this bill would ban bosses from picking and choosing which guaranteed benefits their employees receive.

From ABC News:

The bill, the Protect Women’s Health from Corporate Interference Act, mandates that employers cannot disrupt coverage for contraception or other health services that are guaranteed under federal law. It comes a week after the Supreme Court’s controversial ruling that closely held for-profit companies can deny contraceptive coverage under their company health plans if it goes against a sincerely held religious belief.

Want to help shove this act into high gear? It’s as simple as adding your name to the sponsor list. You can do that here. Please help us tell Congress and the rest of this country’s legislators that religious freedom does not mean that a company is allowed to make decisions about the healthcare choices of its employees.

Thank you for your support.



Edited to add: It has been brought to my attention that the ruling WAS NOT expanded. In fact, it ALWAYS covered all twenty forms of birth control. The confusion is in what Hobby Lobby was asking for. While they did, in fact, only ask to be exempt from supplying what they consider “abortifacients” (though the science proves them wrong), the ruling covered all birth control.

The Senate blocked the “Not My Boss’ Business” Act.

You can still help. We need at least 100,000 signatures to overrule SCOTUS. Sign here. Donation not required.

You’re ugly, therefore your argument is invalid.

December 30th, 2012 2 comments

Hillary Clinton had the audacity to tell reporters she’s not making another bid for the White House without wearing makeup.

If you can’t hear the sarcasm in that, you haven’t been reading me long enough. It’s okay. You’ll get me eventually.

I’m furious with the media for forcing me to quote Jezebel, a publication I rarely read since the day they accused a children’s toy manufacturer of sexualizing young girls with their SpongeBob shaving kit. But this right here, from Erin Gloria Ryan, just about sums it up for me.

“You may not agree with a woman, but to criticize her appearance — as opposed to her ideas or actions — isn’t doing anyone any favors, least of all you. Insulting a woman’s looks when they have nothing to do with the issue at hand implies a lack of comprehension on your part, an inability to engage in high-level thinking. You may think she’s ugly, but everyone else thinks you’re an idiot.”

Hillary’s response?

“I feel so relieved to be at the stage I’m at in my life right now. Because you know if I want to wear my glasses I’m wearing my glasses. If I want to wear my hair back I’m pulling my hair back. You know at some point it’s just not something that deserves a lot of time and attention. And if others want to worry about it, I let them do the worrying for a change.”

Personally, I think her “no fucks will be given” attitude makes her more beautiful than any physical attributes ever could.

And that’s all I have to say about that.

original story from Jezebel

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