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NS(K)Q: Q70 – How do I know?

January 23rd, 2017 Comments off

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 70:

I do a lot of dating site dating. It’s just as much of a clusterfuck as you can imagine. It’s like people on dating sites think other dating site users are just sex dolls waiting around to pleasure them. And the dick pics! Ohhh the dick pics. Don’t these boys know that if we want to look at their dicks, we’ll ask? Anyway…this is how I found BDSM. One of the profiles I was looking at mentioned it, and I googled it, and now I’m really intrigued. But I don’t know what, exactly, I’m intrigued by. Like, do I want to be a domme or a sub? Do I want to be spanked or do the spanking? I DON’T KNOW!!! So that’s my question. How do I know?

The simple answer is trial and error. Read more…

30DoK: Define Your Kinky Self by SeaofNeptune

January 31st, 2011 Comments off

Rayne’s been bugging everyone for a guest post defining their kinky selves for the writing project Thirty Days of Kink. Next up, Neptune from Sea of Neptune.

From Neptune’s bio: I’m a beginner toy reviewer/blogger and a current college student. I live with a super awesome boyfriend and I am currently just trying to enjoy life.

Day 1: Dom, sub, switch? What parts of BDSM interest you? Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us.

Hi, my name is Neptune and I love all things kinky. I’m still a novice and I have been exploring this side of my sexuality for a bit of time now. My partner and I are still exploring and experimenting with each other, so right now we switch between the dominant and submissive roles. I am sure that he and I will continue to do so until we settle in our preferred role. For some reason, I tend to feel awkward being the Dom, but it always depends on my mood. When I think about being the Dom and planning things, I always shrink and become shy – but when it’s more in the heat of the moment, I have no issue. I don’t know why that is, I guess I just feel like the spotlight is shining on me and I freeze. Part of the reason I feel that being submissive is easier for me is because I am naturally dominant in regular life. I have a dominant personality; I am strong and willing to take control of everyday situations without an issue. So, I guess that I enjoy giving that up and having someone else take control. To make my decisions for me and tell me what needs to be done. The same may go for my partner as well, he is naturally laid back and willing to go with the flow. So I am sure he enjoys getting the chance to be fully in control for once. Read more…

30DoK: Define Your Kinky Self by Jade

January 17th, 2011 Comments off

Jade

Rayne’s been bugging everyone for a guest post defining their kinky selves for the writing project Thirty Days of Kink. Next up, Jade of Pieces of Jade.

From Jade’s Bio: I am what you see here…and yet so much more.  These are just pieces of me, of who I am and what I do.

Day 1: Dom, sub, switch? What parts of BDSM interest you? Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us.

As Scarlet Lotus says in her first 30 Days of Kink post, much of what I have been writing about all along in my blog has been about just that: discovering who I am in kink, musing on where I’ve been, talking about where I am now, exploring where I’m going. It’s been, and continues to be, a wild ride.

I’ve been practicing BDSM for about 10 years now, off and on, and in those years have learned much about myself and what makes me tick, and yet I am still learning, all the time, and it is still hard to pin just one label on myself. Read more…

30 Days of Kink: Define Your Kinky Self by 3

November 8th, 2010 1 comment

Isn't she beautiful? ~swoon~

Rayne’s been bugging everyone for a guest post defining their kinky selves for the writing project Thirty Days of Kink. Next up, 3 runs a small leather business called Nightmare Hides. Her stuff is pretty spectacular, so if you’re looking for some new leather, you should totally check her out.  One day, our budget will open up, and then I’m totally giving her my business.

Three’s Bio: Hi I’m 3, a 32-year-old artist and leatherworker. I’m a hedonistic, creative, and outspoken Aquarian, open to all the pleasure life has to offer. Having been in a D/s relationship for over 4 years now, I’ve never been happier!

Dom, sub, switch? What parts of BDSM interest you? Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us.

Switch/slave. I’m definitely not your garden-variety kinkster! People tell me almost every day, that a Switch can’t be a slave, etc. etc. I say Bullshit! I am a switch, have been a slave for 4 years, and I’m happier than I’ve ever been before in my life.

I submit to one man . . .my husband and Owner, Grendel. He is the only person that I trust more than myself. To me, trust is the foundation of a good Owner/slave relationship.  Read more…

30 Days of Kink: Define Your Kinky Self by Scarlet Lotus

October 25th, 2010 Comments off

Image By Ben Scicluna

Rayne’s asked a few of the bloggers around the web participating in the writing project Thirty Days of Kink for permission to repost their response to the question listed on Day 1. The first post is from Scarlet Lotus St. Syr at Purveyor of Pleasure. Go here for their original post: 30 Days of Kink: Define Yourself.

From Scarlet’s bio: I’m a genderqueer fat femme drag queen fagette and pomo queer intellisexual polyamorous switch. I have degrees in both Gender Studies and Psychology, both with an emphasis in sexuality. I am a writer, photographer, blogger, sex toy reviewer, and a sex-positive kink, queer, and sex educator. My spirituality comes in the form of sacred whoredom, scarlet womanhood, occultism, and magik. I am an astrologer and a practicing occultist, dabbling in multiple disciplines including sex magik, ceremonial magik, quabalah, and golden dawn, among others.

Day 1: Dom, sub, switch? What parts of BDSM interest you? Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us.  Read more…