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Kintionary: SSC

March 6th, 2015 Comments off
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SSC is one of a number of acronyms that are used as guidelines, of sorts, for BDSM play. Here’s how it breaks down:

S – Safe – Playing safely means identifying the risks involved in BDSM play, and taking care to avoid anything that may result in unintended injury. Ways of doing this can be preplanning play sessions, keeping first aid kits nearby, having an experienced dungeon monitor or spotter around, preparing for aftercare before the scene, among other things.

S – Sane – “Sane” can be interpreted two ways.

The first is that all people participating in BDSM must be of sound body and mind during a scene. This means no mind altering substances, like drugs or alcohol. Some also take this to mean that people who struggle with mental illness may not participate in BDSM unless and until they are able to control (for lack of a better word) their disability.

The second is that all actions in BDSM play must be considered “sane” regardless of desire or consent.

Some circles believe both interpretations of this particular word in this acronym are problematic because they are both used to police the lives and relationships of consenting adults. Besides that, the idea that people with mental illness are not allowed to make their own decisions regarding their sex lives and relationships is an extremely ableist attitude.

And for that matter, one need only spend five minutes on any social media platform (in any circle) to understand that people define “sane” very differently. For example, one person might think getting your tongue pierced is an act of insanity, while another person might think multiple tongue piercings are no big deal.

C – Consensual – This means that any and all interactions will not begin until everyone involved has consented to them, and will end the very second someone withdraws their consent. This also means that nothing will happen unless everyone has consented to it. Nothing means nothing. No touching, no hitting, no kissing…nothing unless and until you’ve been given permission.

Some call SSC a BDSM “rule,” but in truth, not everyone in the kink community agrees that SSC is the way to go. Some prefer to use RACK (will be defined next week) as their guide, while others prefer to eschew guidelines and let their own instincts, fetishes, and moral compasses be their guides.

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No Stupid (Kink) Questions: Episode 18 – SSC and RACK

September 5th, 2013 Comments off

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 18:

I was researching this thing you do (and that I want to do) and I keep coming up with these two acronyms. What do they mean?

SSC – Safe, Sane, Consensual

Just like everything else in the kink community, this acronym is translated a number of different ways.

Obviously, “safe” means you approach kinky activities with a “safety first” attitude. This means when you tie someone up, you’ve got safety scissors nearby in case you need to cut them out in a hurry. If you’re playing with fire, you keep water, sand, and a fire extinguisher next to you at all times. If you’re into blood letting, there are always bandages, rubbing alcohol, antibacterial soap, and gloves in use.  Read more…


December 9th, 2006 Comments off

Recently the person that runs a local [[BDSM]] mailing list I’m on requested that people contribute more to the list. I sent back a message saying that I don’t normally jump in unless there’s really something to say, due to the fact that my opinions are somewhat extreme. I then went on to give some examples.

One example was the fact that I feel that “submissive” and “slave” have distinctly different definitions, but I’m not going to talk about that here.

One of my other points is that I don’t necessarily believe in the “[[Safe, Sane and Consensual]]” phrase that so many in BDSM follow. Why? Well, “Consensual” is a no brainer, however I believe that a submissive and a slave give their consent at different times. What I mean is, I believe a submissive is continually giving their consent, while a slave is giving their ultimate consent when begging for a collar, and thereafter, unless released, there is implied consent throughout the relationship. Of course, I would expect that a real Master or Mistress would take a significant period of time making sure the slave understood that before collaring them.

However, “Safe” and “Sane” are not easily defined, and are totally subjective. Each person will interpret these words differently. As I said in my post to the local list I mentioned, one person new to BDSM may feel that using a bull whip on another human being is crazy, while another may feel that nailing tender body parts to a board is both sane AND sane! Who is right? Read more…

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