Our Owner/property relationship breaks down to one very easy, very succinct command: Obey. Preferably graciously, but if the shit comes right down to it, just fucking obey. Sounds easy, but can be as hard as all hell from time to time.
He makes all the decisions in this House, from what to get people for gifts up to whether He should apply for a mortgage to buy a house. He is very kind and asks for my input, educates me if i feel ill-informed about it, but His choice is the ultimate decision, no regrets or dissension allowed. Medical, monetary, parental, familial, career is all His purview. i offer what i can and strive to understand what i learn from Him. i am not guaranteed a reason for things, but if i ask nicely and it doesn’t bother Him, He usually explains it to me so i can better understand His train of thought and maybe emulate it myself.
He isn’t much into protocol, which is no surprise for a Man as laidback and cool as He. There are a few standing rules, so i’ll break them up into public/Family and private/Scene rules.
Public or Family Guidelines:
- When walking together, stay on the right side, one step over and one step behind.
- Ask to leave His side.
- Let Him do the talking to waitstaff and service.
- Ask permission to buy anything, explain what it is and why i think we need it.
- Serve Him first if we are alone, serve the kids first if we are with them.
- Do not criticize, embarrass or disagree with Him in a negative fashion.
Private or kink-aware Guests:
- Sit by Him, preferably on the floor
- Ask to go anywhere or do anything different than the current task
- Listen more than talk
- Be aware of the small cues that indicate He needs or desires something
On top of the smaller things like above, i cannot leave the house without His prior permission, unless it’s an immediate emergency. i cannot spend any money without clearing it with Him first. i will not make any plans without asking Him first, and i will bow out of an engagement if He so demands it.
i am to do all of the housework, all of the cooking, most of the child-rearing, and to help out at His notice with the larger, more Master-orientated chores on the farm. He provides the house, i make it a home.
i try to keep all of His favorites, His preferences at the top of my mind when i make the meals. If i cannot avoid making something that He doesn’t enjoy, i provide a substitute for Him. Read more…