NS(K)Q: Q55 – More Action Please!
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Question 55:
My dom and I have been living together for a couple years. We were local to each other but neither of us has ever been very active in the local community so we ended up meeting on Fetlife. I read his profile and posts on Fetlife, and talked to him before we met and talked to other submissives he’s played with in the past before we met up. I was pretty sure he likes the same things I like. We dated for a while and then we started playing and then I moved in with him and all of a sudden nothing. We hardly even have sex anymore, and when we do it’s way vanilla. Is it something I did? How do I fix it?
First of all, why the hell have you let it go on this long?
He doesn’t do well with confrontation. If I tell him I have a problem, he gets really upset and nothing gets solved.
Okay, so don’t couch it as a problem. Simply tell him something’s changed, and you’re wondering why.
Ultimately, the only one who can tell you if you’ve done something to cause this change is him. It could be any number of things that have nothing to do with anything you’ve done, though. Read more…