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#SinfulSunday – @Tantus Paddles Are Wicked

May 19th, 2013 15 comments

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BDSM v. Sexual Assault: A Survivor’s Perspective

May 11th, 2013 1 comment
We got married here...pre-newspaper and graffiti, of course. Click to enlarge.

We got married here…pre-newspaper and graffiti, of course. Click to enlarge.

If you’re a new reader, there are three things you’ll learn very quickly by reading my posts on this site.

  1. I am a survivor of sexual assault and domestic violence.
  2. I am the property in a consensual 24/7 consent-to-nonconsent owner/property relationship. (like how I made sure to get “consent” in there twice?)
  3. I work in the adult industry.

People often ask me how well those last two things play with the first one. It seems like they wouldn’t play well together at all, though a common stereotype is that survivors seek out BDSM and the adult industry because something inside them is “broken”.

I don’t know anything about that. I’ll admit, most of the submissives I know have suffered some form of abuse. But I know a lot who haven’t. And I know a lot who were masochists and/or craved control long before the abuse started. I, myself, decided I wanted to strip my way through Harvard before any of the sexual abuse started, and pain has always been a turn on for me even before it was incorporated into anything sexual with another person, consensual or not.  Read more…

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#LadyPornDay: My Porn Experience

February 22nd, 2011 Comments off

Did you hear? Today is #LadyPornDay. Rachel Rabbit White (whose name I am completely infatuated with… not to mention that adorable face) started it, and it’s taking the blogosphere by storm. What’s it about? From Rachel’s page:

At it’s heart, this is about celebrating pornography and masturbation. It is an opportunity for ladies of all genders (or however you identify) to open up a dialog: What is feminist porn? What is your history with porn? What do you find hot? And ultimately it’s a dare to share your hot links. Because the more we can openly talk about porn and what we like, the more likely it is that porn for women will continue being made. And really guys have been sharing and recommending porn for ages! So help a sister out.

I don’t review a lot of porn. I have some that I need to review. The company’s probably written it off as a bad investment. Soon. Maybe this weekend.

We haven’t really bought any porn in a while, either. The last time we went out to an adult store, or something, and picked out a flick or two from the giant bin in the middle of the fluorescent lights and CalExotics toys was 2004, and even though we went for things that should have been right up our alley, they bombed. I console myself with the fact that we fully intend to subscribe to Kink.com in the very near future, and we watch a lot of clips on a lot of the hubs. That’s a money thing. Some of the sites we’d like to pay to belong to are too expensive. Read more…

Wanton Wednesday – I’m sure you can find some use for me.

November 10th, 2010 1 comment

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