Posts Tagged ‘play partner’

NS(K)Q: Q62 – Where To Find A Kinky Couple

February 26th, 2016 Comments off

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 62:

I’m so interested in getting into a kink lifestyle but have no idea where to begin. I want to eventually become a 24/7 live in bdsm slave, belonging to a male master and his submissive. I want to be the ultimate toy to two people. Any tips/hints/suggestions of where to look? How do I meet people that are into this? How do I find meet ups? Is it common for people to do a trial run first? Any tips are appreciated!

As I’m sure you can imagine, there are a few ways to find likeminded people in the lifestyle.

For me, it just sort of fell into my lap. A woman moved in next door to me who had children with a man who was very into the lifestyle. He and I met one day while he was picking up his children and I was walking my dog, and the rest, as they say, is history.

I think it’s probably safe to say this doesn’t happen very often. Read more…

Kinktionary: Play Partner

August 14th, 2015 1 comment

Jacques Biederer, 1887-1942

Jacques Biederer, 1887-1942

A play partner is just what it sounds like: a person you play with in a BDSM setting. Generally speaking, if someone is your ‘play partner,’ you enjoy playing together, and you’ve played with them on more than one occasion.

In many cases, relationships between play partners are ‘no strings attached’. That is, there’s no defined expectations beyond occasional play sessions with each other. Often play partners are not exclusive, and do not adhere to rules outside of play time the way a committed dominant and submissive would.

Got a suggestion for our Kinktionary? Leave it in comments or email it to with “Kinktionary” in the subject!

Me and My Big Mouth…

December 1st, 2003 Comments off

One of these days I’ll learn that this mouth of mine is nothing but trouble. When I was a kid, if it wasn’t spitting out atrocious piles of bull shit, it was verbally upchucking stuff I had no business revealing. Thankfully, I haven’t done the latter in years.

I can hear you already. “So what’d ya do this time?” Do you have any idea how incredibly, ridiculously stupid I feel every time I hear it? “What’d ya do this time, Rayne?” or “Boy! He’s in rare form. How’d ya piss him off this time?”

Yeah, yeah…I know. “But you’re such a good girl! How could anyone think that?” Did you guys miss my little excerpt on how Mrs. Perfect fell? Yeah, well, this time she fell harder. If that’s at all possible. Read more…

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