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#PSA: Free Safe Rides on New Year’s Eve

December 31st, 2016 Comments off

Just a quick heads up for those ringing in the New Year out on the town because preventing you from driving drunk and injuring yourself or someone else is important to me.

Martin, Harding & Mazzotti, LLP do it again preventing DWIs and tragedy with free cab rides on New Years Eve! Put this number in your phone: 1-800-LAW-1010 or text **LAW if you don’t have a designated driver and you’re spending New Year’s Eve in the following places:

New York
Capital District




AAA also offers safe rides in some areas. You can find a list of them here. However, they recommend making other plans just in case they get swamped and can’t get to you.

Make sure you check this list for a designated driver service in your area. Some of these may have a small fee, so be sure to call before you go out to find out how they work.

PLEASE don’t go out tonight without a backup plan.

Have a great night and stay safe! I love you all! Happy New Year!

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The First Day of the Rest of Our Lives

January 1st, 2016 Comments off

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Hello, 2016.

Last night, we sent 2015 on its way with lots of sex, a little bit of booze, and Rockin Eve, as is our way. It’s just not the same without Dick Clark. But Ryan Seacrest appears to be losing some of his douche as he grows older. He might even be cool some day!

Master’s not really into pop, so we don’t listen to much of it aside from Miley Cyrus, but only I listen to her. The artists who performed last night were actually pretty good. It was nice to see people just sing and not autotune their voices to sound like robots. I was never really into that trend.

I was blown away by Alessia Cara. From her astounding voice, to the song she performed, to the fact that she was like “Fuck this shit, I’m performing in something comfortable,” she’s pretty flipping amazing. I’m gonna have to look up the rest of her stuff.

This morning, I’m making breakfast as slowly as possible because Master can’t handle partying like he used to would like a bit more sleep. For the first time ever, I think my hash browns (shredded, not home fries) are going to be perfect. I’m pretty excited about that.  Read more…

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15 Things I Learned In 2015

December 31st, 2015 Comments off
Anthony Quintano / flickr "This bitch is going down, tonight!" "Rayne, I mean, come on!" "Sorry, Rayne."

Anthony Quintano / flickr
“This bitch is going down, tonight!” “Rayne, I mean, come on!” “Sorry, Rayne. Couldn’t help myself.”

  1. I’m strong as fuck. So strong in fact, that in 2015 I slammed into a post, totaled my bike, and walked away with nothing but a few bruises and a separated AC joint. Fuck. I can do anything.
  2. I am an idiot. No, really. I make bad decisions. I go around my elbow to get to my thumb. I say the wrong things. And I’m only just now beginning to realize how much I don’t know.
  3. A lot of people don’t like me. Like, I always knew some people didn’t like me. That’s life, right? Nobody gets along with everybody. Except, apparently, my mother, but that woman is a saint. But this year, I realized a LOT of people don’t like me.
  4. A lot of them don’t like me based on who I used to be and aren’t interested in giving me another chance. Which, I mean, I get it. I can be a bitch sometimes. I’m okay with that.
  5. I’m allowed to be me, even if other people don’t like who that is. I know I’ve had a ‘gives no fucks’ reputation for a while, but I dealt with a lot of guilt about that. Society says some parts of my personality are bad, mmkay. I’m finally comfortable with saying fuck society.
  6. You have to go after what you want. It’s not just going to fall into your lap.
  7. I have no idea what I want. I mean, I want Master, and our relationship, and all of that. There’s no doubt about that. But beyond that? Who the fuck knows? Not me.
  8. Maybe that’s okay.
  9. I don’t always try hard enough. Sometimes, I allow myself to succumb to the blackhole that is anxiety and depression when I probably could pull myself out if I just tried harder. That’s not me falling for society’s theory that mentally ill people just don’t try hard enough. It’s just the plain truth.
  10. I am way too hard on myself. When I make mistakes, when I can’t finish something, when I hurt someone, I beat myself up so much that sometimes I’m out of commission for days. That’s ridiculous.
  11. I need to journal outside of blogging. I stopped for years. It felt redundant. I was writing in my journal and often writing the very same thing in my blog. And it became tedious. Instead of writing what I wanted to write about, I wrote about my days, which, believe it or not, don’t vary all that much. “Monday: Got up. Made breakfast. Cleaned the kitchen. Cleaned the cat box. Went for a walk. Wrote. Made dinner. Watched TV. Went to bed. Tuesday: Got up. Made breakfast. Cleaned the bathroom. Took out the trash. Went for a walk. Edited. Made dinner. Killed zombies. Went to bed.” Borrrrrring. So, I’ve begun to journal again, and I’m writing whatever’s in my head. Maybe it’ll get me writing here more often. We’ll see.
  12. It’s okay to make decisions other people don’t understand. 
  13. Don’t sweat the small shit. As long as the rent’s paid, and there’s food on the table, everything else is small.
  14. The sun’ll come out. Maybe not tomorrow, but some day. And when it does, I will love it all the more for having missed it for so long.
  15. I love my master far more than he could ever dream of loving me. He should be embarrassed. 😂

Here’s to all of us doing better in 2016, eh? Happy New Year, y’all. 🍻 🎉

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New Year, New Start: 10 Things I Hope For In 2015

January 1st, 2015 2 comments

10. Peace on Earth. Or barring that, I’ll take less violence and hatred, please and thanks. But it’s way up here at number 10 because I know for a fact that it’s not gonna happen in my life time. Maybe not even my children’s life time. But at least more people are looking at the problems now than they were when I was a kid. So maybe in my children’s children’s life time.

9. A peaceful resolution between the system and the people. The cops (specifically, the racist heads of the NYPD) say we’re to blame. We say they’re to blame. I say we all harbor a little guilt, so let’s dissect the problems (all of the problems), and fucking fix them, so we can fucking trust each other and pull our society together the way we all claim we want to. Read more…

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10 Things I Love About 2014

December 31st, 2014 1 comment

image10. Meeting new people online and off. We’ve met quite a few new people this year. It’s been pretty cool.

9. Allowing myself to feel. I’m a stuffer. I’ve always been a stuffer. Easier to stuff my emotions than to deal with them. This year, I decided it’s time to heal rather than pretend I have. It’s slow going, but I’m getting there.

8. Not having a job. In years past, when I’ve been between jobs, I’ve fretted about it nonstop. M’s paycheck has always mostly covered our bills, but I feel guilty about the onus being on him to support us. This year, I finally got it through my thick skull that this is what he wants, and just allowed myself to enjoy being free to do whatever he wants…even when that was just sitting in the backyard with the cats. Read more…

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10 Things I Hate About 2014

December 30th, 2014 1 comment

frustration10. Our complete lack of interest in leaving the house. I’ve never ordered groceries so much in my life. After M’s back surgery, I justified it with him not being able to stand long enough for a proper grocery shopping run. But once he got better (not 100%; he’s still not 100%), we still did everything we could to not leave our house, and if we absolutely had to leave the house, we did what we could to not leave our neighborhood. I don’t know what that’s about. Probably the stress of the year. But let me tell you, I’m fucking bored of these white walls.

9. Vacation with the fam. Okay, it wasn’t terrible. But it wasn’t awesome either. I don’t really like my sister’s fiancee, which is a huge point of contention between me and my sister. I don’t really like the way either of them treats my mother, who is the sole reason they’ve been able to keep my niece living in a safe neighborhood. And I’m definitely not happy with some of the things he does to my niece; like the time he was throwing firecrackers at my mother, and when M and I told him to knock it off, he sent my niece out to throw firecrackers at her instead. And then there was that time he started watching Vines, or something, on his iPhone without headphones and on max volume when M’s boss called while we were playing a game…yeah, I’ve never been so happy to come off vacation in my life. I haven’t talked about it before now because I have no idea if she reads here, and I hadn’t talked to her about it yet. But now I have, and this is my space, so I’m talking about it now. #sorrynotsorry Read more…

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