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Kink is bad, mmkay? It destroys families.

September 7th, 2010 17 comments

I don’t read Eden Cafe quite as often as I should, being a writer there.  It’s not that I don’t love them muchly.  If you read my Versatile Blogger Award post, you know I think the writers are great, and I love their intended message.

Thing is… I don’t agree with a lot of it.  And even less, recently.

For example, there’s a series about how an affair can help your marriage, and one about asshole things guys do during sex, and…

There were others, but I’ve given up trying to look for them.  Maybe it’s not AD(H)D.  Maybe it’s just laziness.  Though I have been looking for about half an hour, so I suppose that’s pretty good.  For me.

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Facing My Limitations

August 26th, 2010 3 comments

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The other day, M and I had an argument… sort of.  It was meant to be a discussion, and we tried to keep it conversational, but emotions got high, as they tend to do, and tempers flared, and we were both licking wounds when things were over.  We worked it out, and we promised each other we’d fix it.

But something He said stuck with me.

He told me there’s a shit ton of stuff that He does throughout the day to help me maintain an even keel, and stay on task.  He reminds me of things often, and points out obstacles I don’t see so I won’t trip over them (literally and figuratively), and when He sees me trying to take something from the bottom of the pile without moving everything, He’ll make me stop and take everything off the pile first so I don’t knock it all over.  All of this, and more, He does so I don’t freak out about how clumsy I am, or get upset about my failing memory, or get frustrated with my disabilities.  Read more…

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What if…?

August 9th, 2010 6 comments

You know, it’s funny.  Our relationship quite often cycles the way an abusive relationship is said to.  If someone who didn’t know us were on the outside looking in, only seeing things from a third person limited perspective, not being able to read M’s mind or know what He’s thinking without asking Him directly, it could come off as an abusive relationship.

M knew how I was feeling.  I’d told Him a couple of times over the course of a few days.

And He likes playing mind games.  Read more…

SJP#540 – Down Time

August 3rd, 2010 Comments off

Do you ever get ‘down time’ or some time where you can choose how to relax? If so, what is your favorite way to spend it?

I get down time.  Quite frequently.  Though I wouldn’t exactly call it down time.  And because I’m always waiting for M to have something for me to do, I very rarely take advantage of it like I should.  I mean, what’s the point in getting engrossed in something, only to have Him break my concentration every so often?

But, like I said, I wouldn’t exactly call it “down time”.  Read more…

The Best Defense…

October 12th, 2003 Comments off

Everything is foggy today. I’m really not feeling well. But one thing that keeps gnawing at the front of my mind is people’s seemingly undying “need” to defend me. It drives me absolutely insane. Ya know, I am completely tickled that I have so many friends that feel the need to “protect” me, but that’s what Master is for. And I definitely don’t need protecting from Master.

I think sometimes people take the things I say as whining or complaining when really I’m just talking. Believe me. I’m a very strong slave. Sometimes too strong. And I am completely one hundred percent capable of speaking up for myself when I think something is amiss. So much so that I often get in trouble for speaking up about things that I have no right speaking up about.

Master isn’t so cold and heartless that he doesn’t let me tell him when something is bothering me. As a matter of fact, it is one of my rules that I have to tell him. He knows that, especially with my mental health issues, sometimes things get all screwed up inside my head and I worry about things that really are neither important nor logical. And I, too, realize that sometimes the things that upset me are silly.

What it comes down to is this. I have Master to protect me from the big bad world. That is why I begged for his collar. Because I trust him to care for me enough to take care of me and protect me from things I need protecting from. And because I trust him enough to believe that I don’t need protecting from him. But I’m a big girl. I know enough to say “Master, I’d really like to talk about this,” if something is bothering me or if I think something is amiss. And I know enough to ask for help if I need it.

Consent to Nonconsent

October 10th, 2003 Comments off

So I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m absolutely petrified of the crop. Probably because Master mostly only uses it to punish me. And boy, does it have the desired affect. Last night we were playing around and he grabbed the crop and held it high and blew kisses at me trying to get me to kiss him. All I could do was cower and cry. But the crop and I have always had a love/hate relationship. And right now I love to hate it. Of course, the other night is still fresh in my mind.

All right. I think I’ll talk about my original idea for a minute and then let you be on your way.

There’s a lot of controversy on the issue of consent as far as a D/s relationship is concerned. As I have said before, I can’t speak accurately for online relationships because I have never been an online slave. But I can speak on what I see and what I feel is necessary.

Most of this is just common courtesy. Most of us wouldn’t just walk into a bar and get on our knees and start licking some stranger’s foot. If you would, well then to each their own, but you might want to get that checked.  🙂    Read more…

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