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Welcome to Elust #79 –

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #80? Start with the rules, come back March 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

The Joy of Sucking Cock

Making Porn

My Valentine

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

The One

Midweek Fantasizing – The Portrait

~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

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Marionette
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Photo courtesy of Malin James

Welcome to Elust #78 –

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #79? Start with the rules, come back February 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

£10.53
Balance of Light
Advent Calendar 2015 – Day 24

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Why Sex Fiction?
On using him

~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

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Guest blog: ‘Quite Delightful’, James Deen and me
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Photo courtesy of The Other Livvy

Welcome to Elust #77 –

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #78? Start with the rules, come back January 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

On the Island of Mhowra

Shoulder shaming?

What becomes of the broken hearted…

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

You can hear it in my voice.

Fingers – Please Fuck me With Just Them

~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

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Don’t tell me sucking dick is easy

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I do this thing where I click the links in the related posts widget at the bottom of each post. I like to be reminded of what we’ve been through, things we’ve said, how we’ve changed.

In 2008, I left.

It wasn’t planned. Shit happened. I got scared. And instead of trying to talk to Master about what was going through my mind, I packed the clothes in our dryer, and bolted.

I could make excuses till I’m blue in the face, and punctuate them with the fact that I didn’t feel like he would hear me. The fact remains that the way I handled the situation went against everything I promised the man who holds my leash. And ultimately, my actions caused more damage to our relationship than the reason I ran from him.

It’s funny how much a week with family can show you. At least, a week with my family, that is. And without going into too much detail, I’ve gotta say, this past week with my family showed me how wonderful I have it. Read more…

Gandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 27:

Should a master love his slave?

There’s no right answer to this one. Some people prefer to keep slavery separate from romantic love. Some people won’t be involved in slavery if there isn’t romantic love. Some people find that romantic love just naturally comes with the territory.

Master loves me. So very much. This much:

@Mindcryme @RayneMillaray well duh….anyone who's ever seen you two together knows that! Couldnt hide it if you tried

— Mariea V. Hartnagle (@LadyMariea276) March 1, 2014

I would be his slave without it, because I am hopelessly devoted to him, but I can’t tell you how much more fulfilling it is to be so completely loved by the person I have hitched my devotion wagon to. Plus, being enslaved to the master of me would be empty without his love. Harsh and cold. And that’s really not what I’m looking for.

Some masters adore their slaves, but they do not love them. Their relationships are different than my relationship with master. More that of a man and his dog, than that of a man and his wife.

Still other masters feel nothing whatever for their slaves. The slave is an object they own, and nothing more. Some feel it ought to be this way; that you cannot fully own something that can twist your heart with your love. I say that depends entirely on the people in question, and has nothing, whatever, to do with any perceived or real “BDSM rules” or truisms.

Which is right for you and yours? It really depends on you. Do you want to be loved, or merely owned? Do you want a slave you can love, or merely something to play with?

So today, kinkly.com tweeted about Dan Savage’s assertion on Big Think that monogamy is ridiculous. Just imagine me sitting here screaming “Arrrrrrgh!!!!” with my head in my hands, and my face all screwed up in frustration. It looks something like this: ->

Only I needed my hands to take that picture, and I apparently forgot to look at the camera.

Okay, maybe that’s closer to my psycho face. I hope you didn’t have a baby in your lap when you clicked the link that brought you here. And if you did, I apologize. I’m not really in the habit of scaring babies.

Anyway…

So you have some reference for what I’m about to bitch about, watch this: Read more…