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30 Days of Kink: Any kinky/BDSM pet peeves? If so, what are they?

July 1st, 2013 Comments off

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Ha!

Hahahahaha!

Who doesn’t have kink-related pet peeves? I have a lot.

[Disclaimer: Just because these things get under my skin, doesn’t necessarily mean I think people are “bad” or “wrong” for doing them. Or at least, not all of them. But if you see something you do here, take my opinion with a grain of salt, and keep on keepin’ on. I’m just some chick on the internet.]

1 – Wait…You mean you just started? I must crush your soul! AKA “The n00b Pwner”; Identified by snide responses to questions long-time kinksters can answer with their eyes closed, a clothespin on their tongues, and their limbs tied in uncomfortable positions, while suspended upside-down and backwards from an alligator clamp, complete with sharp metal teeth, on their clits.

Dude, seriously? BDSM is not World of Warcraft, and it is not shameful to be brand spankin’ new at it in 2010. Especially if you’re 19. Read more…

30 Days of Kink: What misconception about kinky people would you most like to clear up?

June 24th, 2013 2 comments

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God, there are so many.

Kinky People Fallacy #1: All us submissive types are beaten into submission on a regular basis. We’d have to be to stay with the dominant types.

First, let me point out that there are quite a few of us who get off on being beaten into submission. One of my most delicious fantasies involves that very thing. But I’ll leave that for one of the prompts that asks about fantasies.

To be honest, I’m not sure it’s possible to beat me, and other masochists like me, into submission. At least, not in the “I just refused to do something M wanted me to do, so he’s gonna pound me into the pavement until I quit my bitching and do it.” sense of the phrase. Cause, like… We’d both get horny. And then we’d have to have sex. And then the whole point of him pounding me into the pavement will have been lost. Read more…

30 Days of Kink: Humorous BDSM Experiences

June 17th, 2013 Comments off

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Full prompt: Tell us about a humorous BDSM/kink experience you’ve had. If you haven’t had one, talk about aspects of kink/BDSM you find funny.

In eight years, you know there’s a ton of things that have happened that are flipping hilarious. It just comes down to remembering them, and not letting the punchline fall flat, like it so often does if you weren’t there when it happened. So, let me just preface this entire post with “Guess you had to be there.”

Like the fact that my nipples still occasionally lactate even though my tubes are tied, and my youngest child is nine and a half years old. So even clovers have a tendency to slip off my nipples when we intend for them to stay put. And since I laugh off accidental pain, when M tugs, and the clover slips, and it finally catches again on the tiniest bit of flesh, I laugh hysterically, while simultaneously yelling “OWFUCKOWFUCKOW!”, and M laughs right along with me.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been all trussed up, hanging in the doorway, mouth gagged, blindfold on, and I hear, “Ow! Fucker!” “Uff ooo ooo?”  Read more…

30 Days of Kink: What are your views on the ethics of kink?

June 10th, 2013 Comments off

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I’ve been mulling over this for quite some time. Mostly because I’m not entirely sure what the asker is asking. I mean, are we talking about things like SSC, and RACK? Or are we talking about etiquette with regard to kinky meetings? Or maybe we’re talking about the morality of the whole shebang? I dunno. I’m confused. So I’m gonna talk about all of the above!

Safe, Sane and Consensual (SSC):

This basically means exactly what it says. That a person claiming to live by SSC only participates in what they consider safe and sane acts, and that all parties involved have agreed to be involved and have given permission for what’s going on. Some people also believe it means all parties involved must be completely sane to be able to give consent. Some laws say so as well.

M and I… don’t really subscribe to that philosophy. And not just because we like to make up the rules as we go along!

I told you I could hear you.  Read more…

30 Days of Kink: What are your hard limits?

June 3rd, 2013 3 comments

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To answer that question, one must first know what a “hard limit” is.

A hard limit is something that you will never, ever, under any circumstances, participate in. Either it grosses you out, or it’s a trigger of past abuse, or it’s against your moral fiber, or it’s just not something you want to do. But regardless the reason, you’re not interested in trying it.

Generally speaking, people consider anything illegal or immoral a hard limit they don’t have to mention. Things like including family or kids in the dynamic, non-consensual anything (torture, rape, imprisonment, etc.), murder, disfigurement or dismemberment, and bestiality are on this list.

I hear your question. Why would anyone have to mention those things? Read more…

30 Days of Kink: Post a kinky image you find erotic.

May 27th, 2013 1 comment

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There are so many things to this photo that I find erotic.

Let’s start with the fact that it’s me. Yeah, that’s me in there. And I know how self-absorbed and conceited that sounds. I just said a picture of me in a hood with my tongue clothespinned is erotic. Damn, I must be full of myself.

But it’s not about that. I don’t find myself attractive. Oh, sometimes, when my hair and makeup are just so, and I manage to find the absolute perfect position to sit in, and the camera is at just the right angle, I might be slightly attractive. But most of the time? I look like what I am. A tomboy who will never outgrow her wild side, and will never have nice things because she’s too rough and tumble to avoid ruining them.

I’ve always got bags under my eyes because when I do sleep till the alarm clock goes off, it’s usually broken, or medication induced. More often than not, I’m up at the first hint of morning. My allergies are ridiculous, and I seem to be developing skin problems that I never had before. And I honestly can’t remember the last time I exercised regularly. Read more…