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NS(K)Q: Q52: He Wants the Gift of Submission

July 17th, 2015 Comments off

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 52:

My longterm boyfriend recently discovered Fifty Shades of Grey. (You’re rolling your eyes so hard I can hear them. Stop it.) I pointed him to this video, and suggested that he do more research, and now he’s talking about ‘the gift of submission’, and how awesome it would be if I could find it within myself to give him that gift. I’m all about kinky sex, but I don’t think I’m cut out for submission. What do I do?

Well, first of all, it sounds like your boyfriend is still taking his cues from Christian Grey. Check out this post on Upworthy.com to see what I mean.

BDSM is not about being coerced into being something you’re not1. Consent can not be coerced or forced. I can’t express this enough. Read more…

Still on the fence about E.L. James and her books?

July 25th, 2014 1 comment

50 Shades of Grey Cover ArtWe all know how I feel about this series and its subsequent sex toy line. If not, I’ll sum it up real quick for you.

The 50 Shades series promotes ABUSE, not BDSM, and should not, in any way, shape, or form, be used as a guide to putting the spice back in your bedroom as the author and publisher (and pretty much the whole god damned vanilla world) have suggested.

The sex toy line isn’t particularly harmful. It’s just cheap, and the vibrators suck. I’m a kink toy snob. Mostly because I like to own kink toys that are aesthetically pleasing, well made, and will last a good, long time. This line is not at all kink toy snob worthy. It’s kinda ugly, if truth be told.

Now that my opinion’s out of the way, let me move on to why I’m here. I originally formulated those opinions before knowing jack shit about the author and after only reading the first book. I’ve still only read the first book. I can’t find the give a damn to read the second and third. I probably will eventually, but it’s so much work. Reading should be fun. I spent the whole first book completely incredulous. Read more…

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Product Review: Fifty Shades of Grey Insatiable Desire (No, really.)

March 24th, 2014 2 comments

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Ooo, what’s that?

Fifty Shades of Grey Insatiable DesireSoooo…

We all know how I feel about Fifty Shades of Grey, right? I’ve only read one book, so far, because, just ugh. I mean, I get that people (especially college-age people) enter into insanity-based relationships like that one–I used to be one of them–but to glorify it by weaving it into an erotic tale and then paint it as “normal BDSM” is just…ew.

For this reason alone, I was set to ignore the Fifty Shades of Grey toy line. I don’t want anything to do with something that E.L. James had a hand in. That author, as she has freely admitted, has no idea what she’s doing when it comes to kink. She did very little research before writing the series, and that’s evident in the fact that her “red room” looks exactly like every stereotypical dungeon (with the added benefit of a bed) you’ve ever heard about ever. I expected every toy in the line to follow the same vein (and based on appearances, I’d say it does), so I wrote it off as something I was so not interested in promoting, even by accident, and promptly ignored all the hype about this line.

Then they named a toy Insatiable Desire. So of course, I had to try it. I mean, it’s got the same name as my blog!

I’m so angry it’s got the same name as my blog. Read more…

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