Posts Tagged ‘FetLife’

NS(K)Q: Q62 – Where To Find A Kinky Couple

February 26th, 2016 Comments off

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 62:

I’m so interested in getting into a kink lifestyle but have no idea where to begin. I want to eventually become a 24/7 live in bdsm slave, belonging to a male master and his submissive. I want to be the ultimate toy to two people. Any tips/hints/suggestions of where to look? How do I meet people that are into this? How do I find meet ups? Is it common for people to do a trial run first? Any tips are appreciated!

As I’m sure you can imagine, there are a few ways to find likeminded people in the lifestyle.

For me, it just sort of fell into my lap. A woman moved in next door to me who had children with a man who was very into the lifestyle. He and I met one day while he was picking up his children and I was walking my dog, and the rest, as they say, is history.

I think it’s probably safe to say this doesn’t happen very often. Read more…

And here I thought kink was all about consent.

April 22nd, 2015 9 comments

On FetLife (requires login), the ‘kinky Facebook’, a woman (we’ll call her Woman) accused her owner (we’ll call him Man) of rape1. And before I even read any of the responses, I cringed. I considered clicking away and pretending it didn’t exist. I didn’t want to be witness to the bullshit I knew was going down.

God, that’s gross. That’s as bad as the 85% of Swedes who just walked by a decoy car in which a recording of a woman screaming for help was being played while the car trembled and shook as if the woman was being sexually assaulted. Eighty-five percent. Though I suppose I shouldn’t be surprised, considering Sweden leads Europe in reported sexual assault cases.

The story goes like this:

Woman was a slave. She withdrew her consent. Man, her ‘master’, had sex with her anyway. Read more…

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See? And THIS is why I’m on the fence about FetLife.

October 3rd, 2014 15 comments

zerodog / icanhazcheezburger made even better by the fact that this is M's QB

zerodog / icanhazcheezburger
made even better by the fact that this is M’s QB

I told you I joined this slave wives group to interact with kinky people again. I also told you that within three posts, I was frustrated.

I decided to go back. Give folks the benefit of doubt. And promptly remembered why I was frustrated.

So there’s this thread that talks about a situation in which the master of the house was disrespected by an unruly, intoxicated family member. The OP asks what you should do if your family gets out of hand in your master’s home.

Of course, the woman should ask her master what he wants her to do, but some of us have a tendency to think that maybe we should just know, so instead, we ask our slave friends to save ourselves some embarrassment. And this would be great, except in some areas, consensual slavery seems to be a giant sandbox competition, during which we would rather kick dirt in each other’s faces than help each other out–hence the reason I began my No Stupid (Kink) Questions series. Read more…

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BDSM and the Law: Just One More Reason to be Cautious

November 9th, 2010 8 comments

“Jury hears testimony about lifestyle that involves bondage and infliction of pain during sex”

That was the headline that flew across M’s Twitter timeline (he has somehow managed to avoid being drawn into the craze that is Twitter, and generally only watches His timeline for news. The old stick in the mud.) yesterday. And the more He read the article to me, the more I wanted to slap the bitch Oklahoma County is trying to protect.

Let’s start with the background.

Nanette “Gina” Larsen, married with children in Utah, moved to Oklahoma to be the property of Richard “Wraith” Wise.  They met on FetLife.  Read more…