Posts Tagged ‘dominance’

The Time We Turned Down A “Sure Thing”

September 10th, 2018 1 comment

It seemed too good to be true.

We were both into a woman who was just as into me as she was M1.

That NEVER happens.

Generally speaking, when we dip our toes into the shallow end of the extramarital relationship/sex pool, I am simply an obstacle to get around to the women we meet. It’s at least half the reason we stopped looking.

If the only people who are interested in Master are women who are hoping to outdo me in some way (and, in many cases, push me out of the relationship completely), then what’s the point? A polyamorous relationship is not a competition. Nobody wins when the people involved treat it as such.

I mean, I get it. Guys like him are one in a million. These women watch him interact with me and see how awesome he is, and how awesome our relationship is, and they want that, too. Read more…

Categories: Rayne Tags:

Definitely made a wrong turn somewhere.

March 26th, 2016 Comments off

M: I have to pee.
Me: You’re not allowed.
M: I am allowed, but I could make it so you’re not allowed again. That could be fun.
Me: That was never fun.
M: It was certainly fun for me.


Note to self: Stop telling him he’s not allowed to do things.

Categories: Rayne Tags:

30 Days of Kink: Define Your Kinky Self by Rockin’

November 8th, 2010 Comments off

Rayne’s been bugging everyone for a guest post defining their kinky selves for the writing project Thirty Days of Kink. Next up, Rockin’ with a Cock In from Light Switch.

From Rockin’s Twitter bio: Sexual. Corporeal. Emotional. Writer of Light Switch. Reviewer. Lover.

Day 1: Dom, sub, switch? What parts of BDSM interest you? Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Define your kinky self for us.

I identify as a switch, sadist, and masochist. I haven’t been comfortable with these identities for that long, so it feels a little strange just putting them all out there for you to read. Perhaps some background would help. Let me take you back to when I first learned about BDSM, which was in high school.  Read more…

I’m starting it! What d’ya think?

November 3rd, 2009 4 comments

discussionnightA while back, Kaya posted a question asking whether or not it can be considered submission if the owner always only makes the submissive do things he or she wants to do. I might have already answered it. I really don’t remember.

Over on her site, I said:

Well… If that’s the case, what happens when you run out of things you won’t do?

Cause, like, my limits are waning. Things I never would have done in a million years seven years ago, I’ve done recently without batting an eyelash.

So if you run out of things you won’t do – which, you know, could happen, maybe… or at least, I could run out of things within the realm of things *he’ll* do – do you cease being submissive?

I dunno, kiddo.

And then I started thinking about my friend and her post about the little orders her owner gives her to keep her in an active happy sub place. Which then brought me to Kaya’s recent post about topping from the bottom. And then it all got mixed up in my head and I started wondering if I top from the bottom. Either because neither of us have noticed it or because Master allows it because he doesn’t mind so much.

And is it “topping from the bottom” if it’s not my fault? Like, if I made a suggestion and he liked the idea and decided to go with it? Or if I’m just rambling away about how I’d do it if it were me and my way was more logical (yes, I realize how improbable that is. work with me!) so he went with it?  Read more…

Categories: Rayne Tags:

Cin started it! – A Master’s Psychic Ability

October 8th, 2009 3 comments

Click to enlarge!

A few months ago, I posted about Master’s psychic ability. For those of you who missed it, it was a tongue-in-cheek post about how Master psychically divined, correctly, that I would fuck up, get punished and move on occasionally throughout our life together.

I want to say this loud and clear: I wasn’t serious!!!

This morning, when I logged into my computer and saw Cin’s post, I considered crawling under my desk and hiding out.  What on Earth is going on over at FetLife? For serious! It’s like someone opened the floodgates holding back the idiot waters and FetLife is suddenly overrun.

Well, not so much suddenly. It’s more or less that I’m actually paying attention now instead of ignoring them with the hope of avoiding drama. But I’m not getting involved in the drama! Okay, maybe a little. I let Kaya’s drama get on me for a minute. But that’s what friends are for, right? Read more…

Categories: Rayne Tags:

Cin Started It! – Mental Health

September 23rd, 2009 3 comments

sexycrazyJust a forewarning, I’m done tiptoeing around this topic. I’m letting it all hang out. And I’m not even gonna apologize if I offend anyone! I know…I’m a rebel!

My first thought when I read Cin’s post on mental health was, “Wait… You’re cheating on me?” And then she explained that I’m a moron for thinking for a second that she’d cheat on me and I felt about an inch tall.

Then I started thinking about all the things wrong with the way mental health issues are perceived. Especially in the online “BDSM community”.

First, it’s not just us kinksters blaming all our woes on our mental issues. M’s oldest daughter nonstop blames all the fucked up shit she does (and she does some pretty fucked up shit) on her mental illnesses (that we’re not 100% sure she has cause we’ve spoken to her therapists who aren’t 100% sure she’s not faking it for attention). And she’s not, by any means, the only one.

But we, as a country and as a society, foster this behavior. We find out someone’s been wronged in some way and we immediately start in with, “oh my god. I’m so sorry! Is there anything I can do for you?” and, “She can’t help it. X, Y and Z happened to her!” and, “You should be nice to him. He had to deal with blahzayblah growing up.” It’s become cool and hip to have a mental illness or be a victim. And it certainly wins a person more attention and, occasionally, lots of dough.

Let’s back up a bit, shall we?

When I talk about my mental illnesses, I’m often making fun of them. Usually, I call my vast array of diagnoses “diagnonsense”. You’ll occasionally hear me call therapy “they-rape-me” and a therapist “the rapist”. I don’t hold the mental health profession in the highest regard because I’m walking, talking proof that they seriously don’t know what the fuck they’re doing.  Read more…

Categories: Rayne Tags: