So yesterday, M’s coworker asked him what we’re doing for Valentine’s Day.

M said, “Nothing.”

We live paycheck to paycheck and M gets paid on the 15th and 30th every month, so our Valentine’s Days usually look like this:
Wake up around 8:30am. Smooch and snuggle in bed for a few minutes.
I get up and make breakfast for us and the cats.
M gets up when breakfast is ready and starts working, eating while he works.
I clean.
I read.
I tweet.
I write.
I make lunch and M eats while he works.
I hang out with the cats.
I talk to M when he’s got a free moment.
I play video games.
One of us makes dinner. If we’re lucky, M gets to stop working, but that’s rare. Often, he eats dinner while he works.
We usually have sex.
We watch TV or a movie or play video/board/card games.
We go to bed. Read more…

Gandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 36:

Do dominants and submissives go on dates?

Yep.

So do tops and bottoms, and masters and slaves. In fact, M and I spent the entire weekend dating like high schoolers. Read more…

If someone asked you, “What’s a date?” how would you answer?

I’m a little old-fashioned. To me, a date starts with a conversation about said date. You know…people meet however people meet, these days (online, in bars, at the bowling alley…do people still bowl?), and one of them asks the other out, or conversation turns to how they should “hang out” some time. Before they know it, they’re making plans to get together, just the two of them, to do something they both enjoy. When the prearranged time comes, they get together however they planned to get together, and (hopefully) the meeting goes swimmingly. There’s no real commitment beyond the appointments the pair made with each other, so they’re each allowed date other people.

The point of dating, of course, is to get to know the person you’re dating and gauge your compatibility.

Of course, there’s always double (and triple, and group) dating, but in my mind, that comes after the couple has dated a while. I mean, who wants to find out they’re not compatible in front of all their friends? And how can you, really? Generally speaking, we’re all on our best behavior when we’re doing something with strangers. This makes it impossible to be genuine and get to know each other. Read more…