Gandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 23:

My relationship has always worked on a reward/punishment dynamic. It’s not like my owner went out and bought me something every time I was good, or congratulated me when I did what I was told. That would be silly. But when I went above and beyond, or completed a task he knew was particularly difficult for me, he would do something nice to let me know he recognized this, and was pleased. Then, one day, he stopped. What happens when the rewards stop? Should I take this as an indication that I’m no longer fulfilling my station in his life? Read more…