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30 Days of Kink: Kink the Reality v. Kink the Fantasy

March 11th, 2015 Comments off

30 Days of KinkFor the rest of this series, and links to others who have participated, click here.

How would you say real life BDSM/kink varies from fantasy BDSM/kink?

These days I shy away from this question because I don’t like to step all over anyone else’s lifestyle. I mean, there are some things that are never going to be attainable for M and me that other people incorporate into their daily lives without breaking a sweat. That’s just the way life works. So instead of trying to define kinky reality and kinky fantasy for everyone (which would force me to talk out my ass more than usual), I’m just going to discuss what the differences have been for me. Read more…

30 Day of Kink: Kink In the Vanilla World

March 3rd, 2015 2 comments

30 Days of KinkFor the rest of this series, and links to others who have participated, click here.

Do your non-kink interests ever find their way into your kinky activities? If so, how?

I dunno if I’ve ever told this story. Huh. Seems I’ve been holding more to my breast than I’ve realized.

M’s a bit of an exhibitionist. I am, too, but I don’t get to pick when I get to be an exhibitionist. M does.

We’re also both huge nature enthusiasts. We love hiking, camping, fishing…if we can do it outside, we probably love it. Except baseball…M hates baseball. Which sucks for me because I fucking LOVE baseball.

Anyway… Read more…

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30 Days of Kink: Post a kink related song or music video you enjoy.

July 17th, 2013 Comments off

“Happiness In Slavery”

slave screams he thinks he knows what he wants
slave screams thinks he has something to say
slave screams he hears but doesn’t want to listen
slave screams he’s being beat into submission

don’t open your eyes you won’t like what you see
the devils of truth steal the souls of the free
don’t open your eyes take it from me
I have found
you can find
happiness in slavery

slave screams he spends his life learning conformity
slave screams he claims he has his own identity
slave screams he’s going to cause the system to fall
slave screams but he’s glad to be chained to that wall

don’t open your eyes you won’t like what you see
the blind have been blessed with security
don’t open your eyes take it from me
I have found
you can find
happiness in slavery

I don’t know what I am I don’t know where I’ve been
human junk just words and so much skin
stick my hands through the cage of this endless routine
just some flesh caught in this big broken machine

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Okay, so this song’s not actually about BDSM slavery. It just takes a line from The Story of O, and builds on it. Reading the lyrics, though, it sounds like the “slave” is mankind and the “machine” is society. Which makes sense. But I have found you can find happiness in slavery. And every time I hear this song, it makes me think about just how much happiness I’ve found in slavery, and I get all sorts of hot and bothered. So there you have it.

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30 Days of Kink

May 21st, 2013 Comments off

FloggerComparisonSo, I searched “BDSM” on Tumblr and I found this list of prompts from QueerKink. It’s a list of writing prompts to help you dissect your kinks and your relationship dynamics, and give you thirty days of writing material. Here are the prompts:

Day 1: Dom, sub, switch?  What parts of BDSM interest you?  Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us.

Day 2: List your kinks.

Day 3: How did you discover you were kinky?

Day 4: Any early experiences that, in retrospect, hint at your kinks?

Day 5: What was your first kinky sexual experience?  If you haven’t had one yet, talk about what you hope to have happen.

Day 6: Describe your weirdest/most interesting sexual fantasy.

Day 7: What’s your favorite toy?

Day 8: Post a kinky image you find erotic.

Day 9: Post a kink related song or music video you enjoy.

Day 10: What are your hard limits?

Day 11: What are your views on the ethics of kink?

Day 12: Tell us about a humorous BDSM/kink experience you’ve had.  If you haven’t had one, talk about aspects of kink/BDSM you find funny.

Day 13: Explain as best you can what the appeal of kink/BDSM is to you?  Why are you drawn to what you’re drawn to?

Day 14: How would you say real life BDSM/kink varies from fantasy BDSM/kink?  If you haven’t experienced real life BDSM/kink how do you think it might differ?

Day 15: Post a BDSM/kink activity you’re curious about and would like to try.

Day 16: What are the most difficult aspects of having a sexuality that involves kink or BDSM for you personally?

Day 17: What misconception about kinky people would you most like to clear up?

Day 18: Any kinky/BDSM pet peeves?  If so, what are they?

Day 19: Any unexpected ways kink has improved your life?  If so, what are they?

Day 20:  Talk about something within kink/bdsm that you’re curious about/don’t understand.

Day 21: Favorite BDSM related book (fiction or non-fiction)

Day 22: What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy?  How does it differ from a vanilla relationship?

Day 23: Since you first developed an interest in kink, have your interests/perspectives changed?  How so?

Day 24: What qualities do you look for in a partner?

Day 25: How open are you about your kinks?

Day 26: What’s your opinion on online BDSM play?

Day 27: Do your non-kink interests ever find their way into your kinky activities? If so, how?

Day 28: How do you dress for kink/BDSM play?  What significance does your attire have to you?

Day 29: Do you have a BDSM title (e.g. mistress, master, slut, pig, whore, princess, goddess, ma’am, sir)?  What is your opinion of the use of titles in general?

Day 30: Whatever BDSM/kink related thing you want to write about.

Check it out! Other people are doing it, too!

I’m a trendsetter! Hee!

Seriously, though, people are joining in the kinky fun.  Here are some who defined their kinky selves for me.  I know! It’s so cool that people are willing to write for me.

And here are some other folks who’re working on this writing project on their own site. Be sure to check them out. Feel free to add your own link via the widget below.

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30DoK: Hindsight

January 10th, 2011 Comments off

Day 4: Any early experiences that, in retrospect, hint at your kinks?

When I was a kid, my elementary-best-friend (we met at 4 and moved away from each other the first time at 8) and I used to act out rape scenes with our Barbies. Jordan Knight was always the rapist.

(Yes… I had a Jordan Knight Ken doll. I wanted Joe McIntyre or Donnie Wahlberg, but my mom, as usual, waited till the very last second to go shopping for my Christmas stuff, and all that was left was Jordan Knight. So… since I didn’t want him to begin with, he was the natural choice.)

We used to come up with some fucked up scenarios. Branding, and scalding, and cutting, and all sorts of torment went into our rape scenes. And I have no idea where they came from. I don’t know who started it. I don’t know who came up with the most bizarre stuff. I just remember that we both were equally interested, and we both tried to top each other. Read more…