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Melen’s Birthday Question Answers! (part 2)

October 28th, 2013 Comments off
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Melen’s passion is photography. This is pic he took of a nearby house that was owned by collie breeders and was abandoned after a fire broke out in the kitchen. The house was still decked out in 70s garb. Click to enlarge.

The second installment of answers to questions you asked Melen for his birthday giveaway. Find the first installment here.

PropertyofPotter asked:

What’s your favorite season and why?

I guess fall, if I had to pick one. I like each season for different reasons. Spring because everything is starting to grow. Summer because, well, that’s a no brainer. I live in Upstate NY, so fall is awesome with the leaves changing color. And winter because it gives me a better appreciation for the other 3 seasons.

Do you still have fantasies that have yet to be fulfilled?

Always. I figure once you fulfill a fantasy, might as well replace it with something else. At the moment, those fantasies involve rayne and another girl. I haven’t met the right girl yet, tho.

Do you have a bucket list (sexual or otherwise)?

Not really. I’m horrible at keeping lists. I’m even worse at following them. Read more…

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Melen’s Birthday Questions Answered! (Part 1)

October 17th, 2013 2 comments
M plays around with 3D graphic programs from time to time. This is one of the fractals he's made. Click to enlarge.

M plays around with 3D graphic programs from time to time. This is one of the fractals he’s made. Click to enlarge.

Here are some answers to some of the questions you asked Melen for his birthday giveaway!

Camryn asked:

Why do you believe women should be submissive to men?

This is a difficult question to answer. At least in the beginning, it was upbringing and religion. I was brought up that the man was the bread winner and that the woman handled the children and the house. Wives obeyed their husbands and all of that. Obviously, that isn’t very realistic these days, for many reasons, not the least of which is that many families (couples, or whatnot) can’t survive on only one paycheck.

I guess now it’s just part of my “kink”. I’m a heterosexual male, a bit of a sadist and control freak. So, for me, women being submissive fits into my view of life.

This question is deserving of an entire post, after much thought on how to present what I’m thinking. I will say this, tho. I don’t have a problem with male submissives. I do not think all men are dominant and all women are submissive. I have never had a problem with a woman as a boss, as long as she’s qualified. I have no issues with working with a woman as an equal, outside of the bedroom anyway.

As with most things, my opinion is constantly evolving. Read more…

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Melen’s Giveaway Answers

February 20th, 2011 2 comments

K2theF asked:

Would you ever share Rayne with other men?

Yes, and I have in the past. Lately I’ve been keeping her to myself. It really depends on my mood, and it really depends on the guy.

Rayne is also my wife, and I will strike quick and hard against anyone threatening that relationship. Because of that, rayne is usually not allowed to be more than a casual acquaintance with the men I let fuck her. It’s purely for sex.

Which leads me to a common misconception; that men want sex and not anything emotional. I can’t begin to tell you how hard it’s been to find men to fuck rayne and keep emotion out of it. Inevitably they cross the line, getting too personal with attempts at friendship, and more. What ever happened to using some good pussy and moving on? Shesh! Read more…

Answers to the Things You Asked Melen

January 18th, 2011 2 comments

selectivesensualist asked:

Are you more of an optimist or a pessimist? I believe people can be a mix, but tend to lean more one way than the other. Do you view the glass as half empty or half full?

Despite what people think, I’m usually an optimist. I got a review at work once that said I had a “negative” attitude. A coworker correct my boss, saying I wasn’t being negative, I was being realistic. An optimist, in my mind, doesn’t stuff his head in the sand and hope for the best. I view the glass as half full, and then I start planning for what happens when the glass is finally empty. Read more…

Melen’s Thanksgiving Thoughts

November 25th, 2010 4 comments

Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday of the year. Even someone like me, who can be pessimistic at the best of times (tho I still claim I’m being realistic), has many things to be thankful for.

A few weeks ago we decided to get a pet. We were at our local Pet Smart to pick up food for the gerbils and birds, and one of the local shelters had a number of cats on site. We didn’t have much money left, so we bought what we needed and headed off to grab something to eat. While we were eating I was thinking about it. I’m definitely an “impulse buyer”, although I’d prefer to look at it more like an adoption in this case. It’s sort of crazy, this concept that you can buy and own another animal.

We hadn’t checked on how much taking a cat home would cost, so on a whim I decided we’d head back and check on how much it would be, with the thought that we’d come back in a couple of weeks and choose a new pet. When we got back to Pet Smart we found out that the adoption fee was 50% off, which dropped it to only $35. All the cats had all their shots and checkups, and were all healthy. In addition to that, they were giving coupons that covered the first big container of litter, and food for a week or more was included. We also found out there were a couple good plastic carriers people had donated. So all we really needed was a litter box. We still put it off, thinking we’d get a cat at the first of the year, when we could afford the pet deposit. Until a friend of ours ended up in the hospital, and none of her family members wanted to take in the cat she’d just rescued from the same shelter Pet Smart works with.

Read more…

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Our decision regarding EdenFantasys

May 25th, 2010 7 comments

This is the last post that will be made about the Edenfantasys issues on this site.

Insatiable Desire will continue our affiliation with EdenFantasys, despite what some view as unethical behavior from EdenFantasys regarding their link policies.

My opinion on their link policies is likely in line with most that have a technical background. The method of linking they are using isn’t protecting anyone, and worse may be providing a false sense of security to the site owners. Either way, you are eventually transfered to the destination website, and at that point there is no “protection” at all. Personally, I think they should get a second opinion from another programmer, and disable this piece of code.

However, once I got over my initial irritation, I gave it some serious thought. Sometimes I can be rather impulsive, as I was with my various comments the other day. Usually I stay out of drama, and I avoid forums like the plague (the stupidity of some people never ceases to piss me off, so I’d prefer not to waste time on it). It looked like this issue was going to directly affect us, so I got involved.

For us, we didn’t join with EdenFantasys because of backlinks, and rayne wasn’t allowed to become a reviewer with the specific idea that it would raise the pagerank of insatiabledesire.com. I’ll grant you that there was an assumption on our part that any links would be what’s considered “normal”, but it wasn’t part of our reasoning for rayne joining their various programs.

The review program was of interest because we had virtually no non-bdsm related sex toys. As far as I’m aware, EdenFantasys has always lived up to their end of the bargain with regards to rayne’s toy reviews. They provide the toy, rayne provides an honest review of it. We’ve never been pressured to provide a “good”, or “bad”, review, but were told to be honest.

I allowed rayne to begin writing occasionally for them because it was essentially a “paid” gig (albeit in EdenFantasys gift cards, but it’s still valuable). This gave our site more exposure in that our name gets out there. People can still click a link and come to our site, if they wish. The gift cards allow us to fill in our toy collection with things that aren’t provided by the review program. Once again, I’m not aware of us ever having issues with this relationship. EdenFantasys lived up to all of their promises here as well.

And finally, we’re an affiliate and refer people to edenfantasys.com from our website. This does tie in with the review program, but we joined the affiliate program for the same reason most everyone does: money. Their commissions schedule still sort of confuses me, but I will tell you that again EdenFantasys has lived up to their side of the bargain. Sales made via links on insatiabledesire.com provide commissions back to us and help us to keep the site up and running. We’ve received numerous payments, and have never had trouble with EdenFantasys keeping their part of the deal.

So, you see, for us it’s easy. I do believe that their linking policies aren’t right, but the rest of our relationship with EdenFantasys has been extremely positive. Some of you that have blogged about this have asked “How can I refer other people to EdenFantasys if I don’t trust them?”. I’d suggest really analyzing the situation, and make sure you’re not feeding off of everyone elses fury. Peer pressure is alive and well on the Internet, afterall.

We refer people to EdenFantasys because they have always lived up to their side in all our dealings with them. I cannot base my decisions on gossip, because a “friend of a friend who knows someones brother” may have had a bad experience. I wasn’t involved in that, and really can’t form an opinion on one side of the story. If back links, and raising your sites pagerank, is your focus, maybe an affiliation with EdenFantasys isn’t a good fit for you. There’s nothing wrong with that.

Without any hesitation, we will continue our affiliation, and continue to recommend EdenFantasys. I ask that everyone respect our decision.

One final thing… If you choose to post a comment anonymously, you will stay anonymous. We do not give out the identity of any anonymous poster, for any reason, ever. If someone claims that we’ve given out an anonymous posters IP or name, they are lying. You can assume this is true at all times, in every situation. There has never been an exception.

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