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NS(K)Q: Q66 – Embarrassed By Masturbation

May 6th, 2016 Comments off

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 66:

I like to masturbate as much as the next girl, but I’ve never really been one to masturbate in front of people. It’s never been an issue until I entered into my current relationship. I love my mistress, but she’s really into watching me masturbate and I’m really uncomfortable with the whole thing. I get really embarrassed and sometimes I cry. I never cum. It’s really disheartening. I want to be able to share everything with her. How do I get past this masturbation shyness?

This is actually something that’s really close to my heart. I have never been 100% comfortable masturbating in front of people. And since I generally don’t get off from penetration alone, that means I have to either sneak off to the bathroom for a wank, or masturbate in front of my partner. And since I’m not allowed to sneak off for a wank anymore, I’ve had to learn to get over it.

For my part, I spend a lot of time reminding myself that masturbation isn’t bad. Society’s belief that women should masturbate is stupid. All creatures masturbate. Masturbation is beautiful. Read more…

Kinktionary: Edging

May 6th, 2016 Comments off

Edging is a generally considered to be a masturbation technique used by men to achieve the “ultimate orgasm.” To edge, a man will bring himself close to orgasm, then deny himself over and over again, before finally allowing himself release. This is said to result in a much better orgasm than if a man were to climax the first time he feels able.

Men do not actually corner the market on edging, and edging is not only used during masturbation.

In BDSM, edging is a method of controlling a submissive by driving them into sexual frustration. The top will bring the bottom to the brink of orgasm through intercourse or manual stimulation (with or without a sex toy), then deny the bottom climax.

Some people believe that this form of sexual control increases a bottom’s submissive nature, and it makes sense. Exerting control over a bottom’s orgasm can cause the bottom to exhibit behaviors they know will please the top in order to receive the reward of getting off.

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