So we stop at the gas station at the corner, and there’s a dude pumping gas on the other side of the pump I’m using. He’s between the ages of 30 and 35, with brown hair and eyes, and looks like your average 30-something white dude, right down to the silver sedan he’s gassing up. That dude was you.

I didn’t think much of it. There’s often dudes pumping gas on the other side of the pump I’m using. They mind their side. I mind mine. We are, after all, just there to purchase gas.

You locked eyes with me as I walked to the pump. No big deal. Strangers lock eyes with each other by mistake and on purpose all the time.

Then, you turned to your wife and said, “All these girls going to the store by themselves every day. When [daughter’s name] is old enough, if she doesn’t have a boyfriend, I will be taking her to the store. She’s not going to be running around this area on her own.”

And I stood there, stunned into silence. Read more…

Gandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 56:

Weird question, but can someone explain exactly what race play is? How does it work? Say you’re a White Man (Master) and a Hispanic Woman (Slave) or a Black African-American Woman(Dom) and a White Man (Slave).

Not weird. Really great question, actually. It’s good to see someone interested in learning about it before doing it rather than just diving right in, because, from what I’ve read, just diving right in can be disastrous and really offensive. As I’m sure you can imagine. Read more…

A munch is a real-life meeting of kinky minds (usually) in a decidedly non-kinky space. Munches are often held in restaurants, or diners, or another setting in which a large(ish) group of people can sit together and chat without bothering other patrons.

Munches serve many functions. Some are used as a sort of vetting process for play party invitations. Some are just an excuse to have a meal with your friends before a play party or other event. Some are forums where kinky people can talk about and debate various things related to kink. Some are for newbies only. Some are for people between the ages of 18 and 35. Some are for people over 50.

I bet there’s even a munch for unicorns.

If there isn’t, there totally should be. Maybe I’ll start one.

Got a suggestion for our Kinktionary? Leave it in comments or email it to rayne@insatiabledesire.com with “Kinktionary” in the subject!

Hello, 2016.

Last night, we sent 2015 on its way with lots of sex, a little bit of booze, and Rockin Eve, as is our way. It’s just not the same without Dick Clark. But Ryan Seacrest appears to be losing some of his douche as he grows older. He might even be cool some day!

Master’s not really into pop, so we don’t listen to much of it aside from Miley Cyrus, but only I listen to her. The artists who performed last night were actually pretty good. It was nice to see people just sing and not autotune their voices to sound like robots. I was never really into that trend.

I was blown away by Alessia Cara. From her astounding voice, to the song she performed, to the fact that she was like “Fuck this shit, I’m performing in something comfortable,” she’s pretty flipping amazing. I’m gonna have to look up the rest of her stuff.

This morning, I’m making breakfast as slowly as possible because Master can’t handle partying like he used to would like a bit more sleep. For the first time ever, I think my hash browns (shredded, not home fries) are going to be perfect. I’m pretty excited about that.  Read more…