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NS(K)Q: Q58 – Should we open our relationship?

January 22nd, 2016 Comments off

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 58:

My wife and I have been talking about opening up our relationship. The idea is rather tempting. There’s nothing wrong with our relationship, currently, we just thought it might be fun to try swinging, and then, if we like that, maybe just opening it up fully. But I follow these people on Twitter who are in the middle of a divorce. They opened up their relationship, and it ended the relationship. Both of them insist that this is a positive thing. That they would have stayed in a miserable relationship forever if they hadn’t opened the relationship. But I’m not in a miserable relationship. I’m in a great relationship and I don’t want to ruin it.

So give it to me straight. How often does an open relationship kill a marriage? Should I just back out? I don’t want to ruin my wife’s fun, but I’d rather that than lose her. What should I do?

So obviously, I can’t give you specific statistics on how many marriages end in divorce because the couple decided to open their relationship. And if I could, I wouldn’t be able to tell you how many of those relationships were rock solid before they opened their relationship. Partly because people just aren’t that honest with themselves and each other, but also because those statistics just don’t exist. Read more…