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Kinktionary: Punishment

September 4th, 2015 Comments off

BartSimpsonPunishment in BDSM isn’t all that different from punishment in vanilla life. In both, punishment is a penalty for breaking the rules or being disrespectful.

Generally speaking, punishment is used by the top in the relationship to correct the behavior of the bottom in the relationship. Each top uses different methods. Some choose to base the punishment on the crime (corner time for acting like a child, licking soap for being a smart mouth). Some use methods once used in schools (writing lines or essays, wearing a dunce cap or a sign that says what they did wrong at play parties or events). Some restrict privileges or assign menial tasks (taking away TV time, cleaning the neighbor’s dog kennel). Some use corporal punishment (spanking, kneeling on rice). And some use a combination of all of these.

Not all D/s relationships have a set punishment dynamic. In fact, some don’t use punishment at all. Some things to consider in making this decision are how much control the submissive is willing to give over to the dominant, what kind of relationship dynamic the couple agrees upon, and whether or not the couple feels a punishment dynamic is necessary or effective.

Some people do use punishment as a form of play. A ‘bratty’ submissive will intentionally break rules or be disrespectful to garner punishment from their dominant. This is often referred to as ‘funishment’ by couples who use punishment as a corrective tool.

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