Archive for September, 2015

Product Review: Bettie Page Longing For Leather Bullwhip

September 23rd, 2015 1 comment

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Ooo, what’s that?

That’s our very first bullwhip. Every single time I’ve talked about getting one, M’s hemmed and hawed and suggested something else, and so we’ve got a whole buttload of floggers and paddles, a bunch of canes, two crops, and some belts, but no bullwhips or single tails.

This time, I was flipping through Peepshow Toys’ catalog on my iPad, and I literally squealed when I saw the Bettie Page Longing for Leather Bullwhip. I pointed at it like a six-year-old looking at the Toys R Us Christmas book, and said, “How about this?”

This time, he didn’t even blink. “Get it.”

So I did. And it’s here. And it’s glorious.

I’ve totally signed my own death warrant, haven’t I?

What’d it come in?

A beautiful cardboard box with pictures of Bettie Page on it. I was pretty impressed. Most of the kink toys we’ve acquired in the past came in thin plastic sleeves. Read more…

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Blog Digest: e[lust] 74

September 22nd, 2015 Comments off

Photo courtesy of Switch Studies

Welcome to Elust #74

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #75? Start with the rules, come back October 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

She wanted to let the light in…
Reflections on the Male Nude

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Is it play acting?

~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

*You really should consider adding your popular posts here too*

Can a Woman be a Good Mother and Write a Sex Blog

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days.Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy! Read more…

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Kinktionary: Safe Call

September 18th, 2015 Comments off

Just as in every other walk of life, there are unsavory characters who prowl the (literal and figurative) halls of the BDSM community. A safe call is a mechanism in BDSM used to ensure that both dominant and submissive are safe during initial meetings. This is most often used when a couple who met on the internet decides to meet in real life, but is also used in blind dates and when a new couple meets outside of a group for the first time.

Generally speaking, this works thusly:

  1. Parties exchange personal information that can be used by the police if one or both parties should miss their safe call. This should include real name, physical description (and maybe a picture), age, type of car they drive, phone number, and home address.
  2. Parties each schedule a time (or multiple times, depending on the length of the meeting) to call a person they trust. Each party should have their own person to call (sometimes referred to as their ‘safe call’). Each party should give the personal information they received to their ‘safe call’. Some people choose to also use code words that their date doesn’t know during the call so their safe call knows they’re not being coerced to pretend things are going swimmingly; one for “I’m okay” and one for “I need help.” Some also choose to set up a grace period of a few minutes just in case things get intense (in the good way) and they lose track of time.
  3. At the scheduled time(s), each party calls their safe call and follows the procedure they set up with that person. If the phone call doesn’t come in, the trusted friend immediately (or after the grace period) contacts the police and gives them the information they have on both their friend, and their friend’s date.

Safe calls can (and probably should) be used by both parties in a couple meeting in private for the first time, regardless of gender identity, sexuality, or kinky persuasion, as no one group corners the market on abusive behavior.

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13yo Boy Kisses 14yo Girl, Is Charged With Assault

September 16th, 2015 Comments off

I’m just…wow. I can’t even with the way we’re going, these days. One day, I’ll look at the news, and it’s like “Yay! We decided denying same sex couples marriage equality is against the Constitution! The Supreme Court finally did it right!” (which is really, really awesome) and the next it’s, “Boy, 13, Charged With Assault for Allegedly Kissing Girl, 14, Against Her Will.”

Burn it down. BURN IT ALL DOWN.

Okay, that reaction might be slightly tinged with PMDD-induced rage. Sorry. Let’s wait on burning it all down until I’ve mellowed.

It’s not the first time we’ve gone completely overboard with our attempts to ‘protect the children’. In 2013, a 6yo boy was suspended from school and had ‘sexual harassment’ placed on his permanent school record because he kissed a girl in his class on the hand (due to negative backlash, the school quietly removed the sexual harassment charge later that month). Read more…

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NS(K)Q: Q55 – More Action Please!

September 11th, 2015 Comments off

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 55:

My dom and I have been living together for a couple years. We were local to each other but neither of us has ever been very active in the local community so we ended up meeting on Fetlife. I read his profile and posts on Fetlife, and talked to him before we met and talked to other submissives he’s played with in the past before we met up. I was pretty sure he likes the same things I like. We dated for a while and then we started playing and then I moved in with him and all of a sudden nothing. We hardly even have sex anymore, and when we do it’s way vanilla. Is it something I did? How do I fix it?

First of all, why the hell have you let it go on this long?

He doesn’t do well with confrontation. If I tell him I have a problem, he gets really upset and nothing gets solved.

Okay, so don’t couch it as a problem. Simply tell him something’s changed, and you’re wondering why.

Ultimately, the only one who can tell you if you’ve done something to cause this change is him. It could be any number of things that have nothing to do with anything you’ve done, though. Read more…

Kintionary: Pleasure Slave

September 11th, 2015 Comments off

Enjoying myselfA pleasure slave is a person (Person A) who has agreed to bring another person (Person B) as much pleasure as Person B allows, requests, or requires. Though often sex is a large part of this particular type of power exchange, pleasure slavery is not always limited to sexual pleasure.

Some other roles pleasure slaves play:

  • secretary,
  • sex toy
  • devotee
  • go-fer
  • housemaid
  • personal chef
  • foot stool
  • punching bag
  • masseuse
  • toilet
  • ash tray
  • dollie
  • horse
  • pack mule
  • mechanic
  • handyperson
  • plumber
  • entertainment
  • researcher
  • pet
  • companion
  • friend
  • dance partner
  • spouse
  • partner in crime

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