Gandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 54:

I just found out I’m a secret. I’m not really sure how, because I’ve had dinner with the wife, but she for sure doesn’t know. I’m not feeling it. At all. I have no idea how to handle this. Should I confront him? Should I tell her? At the same time? Separately? What do you think?

Ouch.

Okay, calm down, and don’t do anything stupid. That’s what I’d be telling myself in your situation.

Falling under the heading ‘Anything Stupid’ would be confronting him and telling her at the same time. You literally just found out. You have no idea what the situation is. Read more…

The definition of ‘consensual slave’ has been a matter of great debate for ages. Thanks to the recent release of Grey, the debate has never been hotter. Generally speaking, it surrounds how much (or little) control a person has to give up to be considered a ‘true slave’.

What constitutes a ‘consensual slave’ and ‘true slavery’ varies from person to person, relationship to relationship. A general definition of ‘consensual slave’ that I think we can all agree on is, a person who has agreed to submit wholly to the will of another and commits themselves to seeing that their owner is pleased.

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