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NS(K)Q: Q53 – I didn’t do it.

July 31st, 2015 Comments off

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 53:

I don’t want to go into all the details, but basically I got in trouble for something I didn’t do. He’s waiting for the next time we see each other to punish me. I don’t know what to do. Help?

That really sucks. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.

This is a tough question to answer because I don’t know what your relationship dynamic is like. Each relationship is different, and each has a different way of dealing with situations like this.

Do you have a contract with your dominant? Many people feel they’re unnecessary, but one of the reasons for writing a contract is to delineate what happens in situations such as these. It’s very important that a submissive know what their recourse is if the relationship veers off into the weeds somehow. I mean, even kinky couples have problems. Problems are just part of life. Read more…

Kinktionary: Pain Slut

July 31st, 2015 Comments off

I couldn't find an image that conveyed 'pain slut', so you get an old picture of my bruised ass. =D

I couldn’t find an image that conveyed ‘pain slut’, so you get an old picture of my bruised ass. =D

A pain slut, put simply, is someone who derives sexual pleasure from pain inflicted on their person. The level of pain a self-identified ‘pain slut’ enjoys varies person to person, but generally speaking, to be considered a pain slut by others, one must fall a little more on the extreme side.

A pain slut can identify with any gender (or no gender), sexuality (gay, straight, bi, etc.), or kinky persuasion (top, bottom, switch, etc.).

Self-identifying as a pain slut is not an invitation for pain to be inflicted on the person by anyone at any time. As with all things kinky and sexual, one must first gain a person’s consent before causing them pain in a BDSM setting.

See: Masochism.

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