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#LoveWins! Hallelujah!

June 26th, 2015 Comments off

2015-06-15-1434339383-4826660-PrideFlag1The New York Times headline reads, Same-Sex Marriage Is a Right, Supreme Court Rules, 5-4.

You could almost hear LGBT people and LGBT allies around the nation screaming in excitement.

I’m pretty much speechless. Fuck yeah, marriage equality. It’s about time we did something right.

NS(K)Q: Q51 – What is erotic spanking?

June 26th, 2015 1 comment

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 51:

I know this sounds like a really dumb question, but my parents spanked me, and I can’t imagine that ever being erotic. What is erotic spanking? And why do people get off on it?

It’s not a dumb question, actually. It’s a totally logical question. Especially from someone who was spanked as a child. Read more…

Kinktionary: Soft Limits

June 26th, 2015 Comments off

KffPVLwAxul2A1AcDL-300x298Soft limits can be things you’ve never done, things that you don’t really like (but are willing to do anyway), or boundaries that you’re willing to push. Just like hard limits, these can be anything from a spanking to a golden shower.

Standard operating procedure for many tops is to provide a BDSM checklist (like this one here), on which a new play partner can rate their interests in specific fetishes and ‘normal’ BDSM activities. This gives the top a clear idea of which activities they need to stay away from and which ones they can play with.

Just because you’re willing to try something eventually doesn’t mean you have to try it right this very second with the person who asked you about it. While soft limits can be pushed, they don’t have to be. You always, always have the right to decide when your limits are pushed and by who no matter which side of the slash you identify with (see: consent).

Got a suggestion for our Kinktionary? Leave it in comments or email it to rayne@insatiabledesire.com with “Kinktionary” in the subject!

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