Archive for June 19th, 2015

NS(K)Q: Q50 – Master doesn’t like my fetish.

June 19th, 2015 Comments off

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 50:

There’s this thing that I need to be fully satisfied. My master is not at all into it. In fact, it kind of disgusts him. He loves me and doesn’t want to give me up, and I’m not interested in going anywhere, either. I don’t know what to do. HALP!

That’s a tough situation.

Some folks in the lifestyle would tell you it’s just tough all around. Many believe a slave’s purpose is to serve and please their owner without the expectation of being fulfilled in return. These people would say slaves don’t have a specific right or entitlement to wish fulfillment. Any fulfillment allowed by their owner should be considered a gift and cherished as such. Read more…

Kinktionary: Hard Limits

June 19th, 2015 Comments off

988417Hard limits are things that you absolutely will not do, period, end of sentence, no matter what. They are things that no one should try to coerce or force you into doing (unless you’re into that sort of thing; see consent to non-consent).

Things that people often list as ‘hard limits’ are drugs, bestiality, pedophilia1, scat, and vomit. Occasionally included in that list are urine, fire play, blood letting, permanent marks or damage, broken bones. However, literally anything can be a hard limit, so you will come across folks with limits like spanking, whips, nipple clamps, pain, bondage, etc.

You should never ever feel ashamed or embarrassed about your hard limits. Everyone has different life experiences and desires, and a person’s particular hard limits are often directly related to those things.

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1. Most people in today’s society consider this a given, but sadly, the BDSM community isn’t devoid of sick fucks. Some ‘consensual slave owners’ claim that once they own a person, they own that person’s children, as well, and have the right to do whatever they wish with them. This, of course, is wrong and illegal. No one can give consent to ownership or sex for another person, and especially not for a minor child.

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