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And here I thought kink was all about consent.

April 22nd, 2015 9 comments

On FetLife (requires login), the ‘kinky Facebook’, a woman (we’ll call her Woman) accused her owner (we’ll call him Man) of rape1. And before I even read any of the responses, I cringed. I considered clicking away and pretending it didn’t exist. I didn’t want to be witness to the bullshit I knew was going down.

God, that’s gross. That’s as bad as the 85% of Swedes who just walked by a decoy car in which a recording of a woman screaming for help was being played while the car trembled and shook as if the woman was being sexually assaulted. Eighty-five percent. Though I suppose I shouldn’t be surprised, considering Sweden leads Europe in reported sexual assault cases.

The story goes like this:

Woman was a slave. She withdrew her consent. Man, her ‘master’, had sex with her anyway. Read more…

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Kinktionary: Consent to Non-Consent

April 17th, 2015 Comments off

consent-is-mandatoryIn February, we defined consent thusly:

“Consent, literally defined, is permission. In a BDSM setting, consent is the only thing separating sadomasochism from assault.

Consent is required for each and every act in a play session, sex, any touching, a relationship, collaring, setting a relationship dynamic, a change in relationship dynamic…Consent cannot be coerced or forced.

Consent in BDSM is a fluid thing, and can be revoked at any time. This means that at any point during a relationship or play session, a person (dominant, submissive, or switch) is allowed and expected to speak up when their partner delves into an area they’re not comfortable with. …” Read more…

Blog Digest – e[lust] #69

April 17th, 2015 Comments off

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Welcome to Elust #69

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Bully for you
Watching Me
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He’s Got Her
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All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy! Read more…

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Happy belated birthday to meeeeeee! And stuff.

April 13th, 2015 1 comment

My birthday was last Monday. I am no longer lying when I tell people I’m 35.

I don’t know why I was so excited about 35. And now I am 35, and I’m all, “Haha I’m 35 and you’re not!” only just in my head because I’m pretty sure that if I started saying it to people for real, they’d think I’m crazier than they already think I am.

Hint: I am. Read more…

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