Archive for January, 2015

So I’m a woman. And?

January 21st, 2015 1 comment

imageOn Friday, we went to an office party. I freaked the fuck out about what I was going to wear.

Since Master’s back surgery, we haven’t done a whole lot of exercising, and I’ve gained back all the weight I lost when we were trying to escape the oppression of our old house, plus about thirty pounds.

This doesn’t matter to him. He’s regained a lot of the weight (but not as much as I have), too, and he’s got a thing for fat chicks (which goes really well with my thing for fat dudes) so it literally doesn’t matter. Except that I have very few clothes, even less that fit me, and very few of those are fancy enough for corporate business affairs. Hence the freakout.

If I was a man, I wouldn’t have to do this. If I was a man, I would be able to throw on the same tired button-down/tie combo I’ve worn to every fancy thing I’ve attended since I stopped growing, and not think twice about it. Maybe I’ll mix it up a little, and wear a different tie, but ultimately, the only thing that matters is that I’m clean, well groomed, and have fucking clothes on. No one notices what guys wear. Read more…

Blog Digest – e[lust] #66

January 17th, 2015 Comments off

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Welcome to Elust #66 

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Zombies, and Creative Writing Teachers, and Pizza

January 16th, 2015 2 comments

It’s the second full week of 2015, and I’m already failing at keeping my resolutions. The year is also failing at being nice to me, so I say we’re even.

I want you to know that it’s not that I haven’t been writing. I have! I just haven’t been finishing anything here because I’ve been too busy trying to finish the things I’m writing in Pages.

I’m on a fucking roll with a zombie story I’ve been working on.

For the record, this new zombie thing I’m doing? It’s really fucking weird. Like, I said to M, “I’m writing a zombie story,” and he wrinkled his eyebrows at me and said, “That’s weird.” Read more…

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Kinktionary: Discipline

January 16th, 2015 1 comment

found here – no I’m not preaching to you, that’s just where I found it.

One of the words referenced in the acronym “BDSM“.

Discipline, as it pertains to BDSM, is the practice of training the relationship’s bottom to behave how the relationship’s top wants it to behave. This often includes punishment to correct unwanted behaviors, and is always consensual.

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NS(K)Q: Q45 – How long should I wait?

January 9th, 2015 2 comments

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 45:

So, I’m pretty new to the community. I’ve been attending local munches for a few months and just recently went to my first play party. I played for the first time with a guy I had met casually at the previous munches. It was amazing and he was great. My issue is I want to play with him again and while he did say he would like to play again we just left it there. How long should I wait to ask him to play again? Should I wait for him to bring it up or wait until we meet up again at a munch or play party?

So the important thing to remember is kinky dating (or play partnering, as the case may be) is just like vanilla dating. I’m sure that, just like with everything else, some people have a million and one “rules” for kinky dating, but I’ve always been one to buck the system. This whole thing is supposed to be consensual, and based on what all parties involved want and need, so from where I sit, all that matters is what you’re comfortable with. Read more…

Kinktionary: Bondage

January 9th, 2015 1 comment

Daniele Devoti / flickr

Daniele Devoti / flickr

One of the words referenced in the acronym “BDSM“.

The consensual restriction of a person’s movement.

Most bondage enthusiasts use rope to bind their “victims”, but you can use just about anything, from leather to steel.

Always check in with your “victim.” Keep an eye on their limbs for discoloration, numbness, or extreme cold as these could be signs of loss of circulation. Be sure to keep an extra key, or a pair of safety scissors nearby in case of emergency.

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