Archive for January 2nd, 2015

NS(K)Q: Q44 – I think my friend is being abused.

January 2nd, 2015 3 comments

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 44:

So I read your response to the radical feminist who was considering reporting your owner. That’s just insane. I’ve been reading you a while, and it’s pretty clear to me that you’re happy, and healthy, and Melen is not, at all, abusive. But I know this other submissive, and she’s not happy, or healthy, and I’m pretty sure her dom is abusing her. I have no idea what to do. Advice?

This is a really difficult situation for everyone involved, and I’m sorry that you and your friend are going through it. I think part of the reason it’s so hard on the victim’s friends and family is precisely what you said; they have no idea what to do.

First, you need to know that it is not your responsibility to save your friend. Read more…

Kinktionary: BDSM

January 2nd, 2015 3 comments
BDSM emblem

BDSM Emblem – click image to find out what this means.

Obviously, BDSM is an acronym. Here are some ways it’s split up:

B&DBondage and Discipline

D&SDomination and Submission

S&MSadism and Masochism

Some folks use “BDSM” and “kink” interchangeably, but that’s not altogether correct. You can be kinky without being into BDSM. You cannot, however be into BDSM and not be kinky. It’s like a square is a rectangle but a rectangle is not a square. Or is that the other way around? Anyway…

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