Archive for December, 2014

10 Things I Love About 2014

December 31st, 2014 1 comment

image10. Meeting new people online and off. We’ve met quite a few new people this year. It’s been pretty cool.

9. Allowing myself to feel. I’m a stuffer. I’ve always been a stuffer. Easier to stuff my emotions than to deal with them. This year, I decided it’s time to heal rather than pretend I have. It’s slow going, but I’m getting there.

8. Not having a job. In years past, when I’ve been between jobs, I’ve fretted about it nonstop. M’s paycheck has always mostly covered our bills, but I feel guilty about the onus being on him to support us. This year, I finally got it through my thick skull that this is what he wants, and just allowed myself to enjoy being free to do whatever he wants…even when that was just sitting in the backyard with the cats. Read more…

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10 Things I Hate About 2014

December 30th, 2014 1 comment

frustration10. Our complete lack of interest in leaving the house. I’ve never ordered groceries so much in my life. After M’s back surgery, I justified it with him not being able to stand long enough for a proper grocery shopping run. But once he got better (not 100%; he’s still not 100%), we still did everything we could to not leave our house, and if we absolutely had to leave the house, we did what we could to not leave our neighborhood. I don’t know what that’s about. Probably the stress of the year. But let me tell you, I’m fucking bored of these white walls.

9. Vacation with the fam. Okay, it wasn’t terrible. But it wasn’t awesome either. I don’t really like my sister’s fiancee, which is a huge point of contention between me and my sister. I don’t really like the way either of them treats my mother, who is the sole reason they’ve been able to keep my niece living in a safe neighborhood. And I’m definitely not happy with some of the things he does to my niece; like the time he was throwing firecrackers at my mother, and when M and I told him to knock it off, he sent my niece out to throw firecrackers at her instead. And then there was that time he started watching Vines, or something, on his iPhone without headphones and on max volume when M’s boss called while we were playing a game…yeah, I’ve never been so happy to come off vacation in my life. I haven’t talked about it before now because I have no idea if she reads here, and I hadn’t talked to her about it yet. But now I have, and this is my space, so I’m talking about it now. #sorrynotsorry Read more…

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Merry Christmas, everyone!

December 25th, 2014 1 comment

If you want to arrange it, this world you can change it if we could somehow make this Christmas thing last. By helping a neighbor. Or even a stranger. And to know who needs help, you need only just ask.

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Some Christmas Hilarity for Your Christmas Eve

December 24th, 2014 1 comment

I died laughing when I watched this vid, so I figured I’d share this with you.

Hope your holidays are filled with love and laughter. Hug the kids for us. But, you know, don’t tell them it’s from us. How would you even explain that? “Here’s a hug from some crazy couple on the internet that you’ll never meet. Merry Creepy Christmas!”

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Don’t call me baby.

December 22nd, 2014 6 comments

Do you remember this post I wrote back in May 2013? I won’t blame you if you don’t. There are so freakin many posts with similar points floating around the sex blogosphere that even as I wrote it, I felt like one person in the middle of Times Square at the stroke of New Year’s trying to make sure my Auld Lang Syne was heard over everyone else’s.

Plus, that was almost two years ago. So, you know, I’ll pretend my feelings aren’t hurt. ~dramatic sniffle~

So I wrote it for a couple reasons (mentioned in the post), but the straw that broke the camel’s back was a flirty dirty old man from UniteBlue who kept hitting on me despite my polite attempts to shoot him down and constant reminders that I was happily, monogamously married. After I wrote the post, and tweeted it 903489825287234857 times in a passive-aggressive attempt to get the point across without dealing with a response a la #ByeFelipe, he stopped. I didn’t know if he realized he was the straw that broke the camel’s back, or if he just realized I wasn’t into what he was doing, and I didn’t care. He stopped. Hallelujah.

We still chatted from time to time in @s on Twitter. Usually about M’s back, or the no longer flirty man’s health conditions, or his girlfriend. And then, one day, early this year, he disappeared. Read more…

NS(K)Q: Q43 – Humiliation Techniques for Beginners

December 18th, 2014 2 comments

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 43:

I’ve recently entered into a d/s relationship, and I’m looking for some good humiliation techniques for beginners.

So this one’s a little difficult because when it comes to emotional sadomasochism (which, in a sense, is what humiliation play is), it’s hard to know what’s going to trigger a reaction we don’t want unless one or both of the people involved are experienced in humiliation play. This is just one of the many reasons that open, honest communication is so important in kink. Read more…