Archive for October 2nd, 2014

No Stupid (Kink) Questions: Episode 32 – No Possessions + Isolation = Consensual Slavery? (revisited)

October 2nd, 2014 4 comments

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 32 (revisted):

I met this dominant on the internet, and they say that if I want to be owned by them, I have to sell all my belongings, quit my job, sign my kids over to my ex, cut ties with my family, and move to live with them in the middle of nowhere with no ties to the outside world, or even a backup plan. I dunno that I’m comfortable with that. Does that mean I can’t be a slave?

After reading the comments on my original post on this subject, I felt like maybe I misspoke, or was a little too vague. I feel like it came across as me saying this kind of dynamic is wrong, and that’s not how I meant to frame it at all.

I want to go officially on the record and say that there is nothing wrong with making the decision to give up everything for your owner. Many people have done it. Many people find it invigorating, empowering, and life-fulfilling.

My snark in the first paragraph of the last post (found here) was aimed at the woman who seemed to think her way was the only way, not her way in and of itself. Read more…