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No Stupid (Kink) Questions: Episode 29 – Identification

May 15th, 2014 6 comments

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 29:

I’m really into submission. I love everything about being controlled by my partner, from spankings to service. Thing is, I’m a rather strong personality, and everyone I know is telling me I should be a dominant. They say I’m too much of a control freak to submit. Does this mean I can’t be a submissive?

No. Nonononononononononononononono. NO!

Can you tell this is something that gets under my skin?

Let’s talk about me for a second, and then, if it’s still not clear, I’ll explain my position.

So I’m headstrong as hell. It takes an insane amount of strength to deal with me when I get it in my head that I’m right, no matter what the situation. Especially if, through the course of the situation, I find myself insulted. Then, even if I’m wrong, all rational thought goes out the window, and the only thing that matters is the fact that I was insulted.

Beyond that, if I feel like no one else is at the wheel, I will jump in the driver seat so fast your head will spin. I mean, someone’s gotta drive, damn it, or we’re gonna crash! Read more…