Archive for March, 2014

Product Review: Fifty Shades of Grey Insatiable Desire (No, really.)

March 24th, 2014 2 comments

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Fifty Shades of Grey Insatiable DesireSoooo…

We all know how I feel about Fifty Shades of Grey, right? I’ve only read one book, so far, because, just ugh. I mean, I get that people (especially college-age people) enter into insanity-based relationships like that one–I used to be one of them–but to glorify it by weaving it into an erotic tale and then paint it as “normal BDSM” is just…ew.

For this reason alone, I was set to ignore the Fifty Shades of Grey toy line. I don’t want anything to do with something that E.L. James had a hand in. That author, as she has freely admitted, has no idea what she’s doing when it comes to kink. She did very little research before writing the series, and that’s evident in the fact that her “red room” looks exactly like every stereotypical dungeon (with the added benefit of a bed) you’ve ever heard about ever. I expected every toy in the line to follow the same vein (and based on appearances, I’d say it does), so I wrote it off as something I was so not interested in promoting, even by accident, and promptly ignored all the hype about this line.

Then they named a toy Insatiable Desire. So of course, I had to try it. I mean, it’s got the same name as my blog!

I’m so angry it’s got the same name as my blog. Read more…

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I’ve always wanted to call myself queer.

March 19th, 2014 7 comments

Photo of Rayne with a rainbow gradient The first time I heard the word “queer,” I fell in love. I was about six, and it was one of our spelling words for the week.

At the time, though the word was gaining ground as an insult to gay people, to a child’s brain it only had one meaning: weird.

I was definitely weird. When my friends were spending their time playing Hide and Go Seek, or using the empty plot next to my house for a barely-legal game of baseball (seriously, we changed all the rules because we could), I was often curled up in my imagination, watching the cheerleaders on Fear Street spew split pea soup, or pretending I was Jessica at Sweet Valley High, or sneaking looks into more adult authors that I wasn’t supposed to read, like Stephen King and Dean Koontz. I loved baseball and my friends, but when you love so many things, as I did, you have to divide your time wisely. I occasionally forgot there was a world outside my books.

I dressed all in black, all of the time, but rarely owned black shoes until I finally talked my dad into a semi-girly pair of combat boots from Payless. It wasn’t goth. I loved to watch the goths in high school during lunch. I loved how comfortable they were in their Victorian clothes and heavy makeup. I wished I had big enough cojones to do something that drastic with my wardrobe and makeup. Not necessarily goth, but something. Read more…

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Blog Digest – e[lust] #56

March 18th, 2014 Comments off

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Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #57? Start with the rules, come back April 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Trick of the Light

What Does Porn Lead To

The Posh Life of a Sex Toy Reviewer?

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Eleven Quarters

Society for Prevention of Cruelty to Sadists

~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

*You really should consider adding your popular posts here too*

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy! Read more…

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Feminism v. the Tough Girl

March 17th, 2014 Comments off

“Being a ‘tough girl’ doesn’t mean you don’t need feminism.”


“It means you have altered your humanity in order to appease/recenter patriarchy.”

Bull. Shit. Being strong does not appease or recenter patriarchy, and the suggestion that it does is, frankly, the stupidest feminist thing I’ve ever heard in my life.

If you’re allowed to be weak, then I’m allowed to be strong.

And that’s all I’ve got to say about that.

(Not really. I’m working on a longer post about this concept, but saw that RTed into my timeline, and had too much to say for a tweet.)

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No Stupid (Kink) Questions: Episode 28 – Dominant Emotions

March 11th, 2014 3 comments

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 28:

What’s this nonsense about dominants not having or being allowed to show emotions?

This is something I’ve been meaning to address for quite some time. Master actually addressed this himself (sort of) in this post here, but he’s a straight, white, cisgender, alpha male, and nobody listens to them. And when another submissive told me that her dominant told her that he’s not allowed to show emotion because of his dominant status, I wanted to throw something. So let’s address it, kay? Read more…

If you’re following @SexTaIk, please, for the love of sex and women, STOP!

March 7th, 2014 4 comments

Edited: Originally listed the name as “@sextalk”. My apologies to this person. I haven’t actually looked at their twitter account. But you can bet I will now! Lol.

So somehow, I stumbled on a Twitter account called @SexTaIk. This account has 691 THOUSAND followers. And they tweet stuff like this:

Slut shaming, FTW!

Because sensuality for sensuality’s sake is just a no. Read more…

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