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30 Days of Kink: List your kinks. by @AlisonTyler

February 15th, 2014

Delicious Torment by Alison TylerList your kinks.

Let’s put our cards down on the table: I hate filling out forms. But your list is so much fun, I want to answer more than one. (Oh, god. I rhymed.)

The truth is that I have one major kink—the one that defines me as much as my brown eyes, or my silver-streaked hair, or my too-wide smile. I am a voyeur’s voyeur. I want to know everything. Not only about how lovers behave in the bedroom—but beyond. I want to know what’s in your purse, on your bookshelf, in your back pocket. I pay attention to bits of conversation (yeah, it’s called eavesdropping). I unintentionally snoop all the time.

This particular kink has lead to many others. I mean, because I like to watch—because I want to see—I also want to experience other people’s kinks and fetishes.

That’s not to say I don’t have a whole slew myself. Because I do.

I’m a sub.

I like bondage.

I am into sex toys.

I appreciate spanking.

I enjoy leather, latex, and rubber.

Sensory deprivation (of one sort or another) heightens my experience.

Public sex is a box I’d check “yes.”

You say “anal,” I bend over.

I like ménages.

And trois.


But I desperately want to know what winds up others. (What turns their keys. What opens their doors.) Which means I’m curious about kinks that I might not have originally found enticing. “Like what?” you say.

Like: fucking with balloons, being on either side of a glory hole, gangbangs, being tickled, cross dressing, orgies, sliding into the role of a dom, playing with food, making an X-rated video, wearing a corset…

For about six months, I ran a Fetish Friday spot on my blog. I covered all sorts of “themes,” and I found that I wanted to try anything I hadn’t yet. Maybe that makes me a bit of a sexual daredevil. But really, I think I’m simply a voyeur. Or a voyeur-plus. I want to watch from the inside. I want to see out your eyes. I want to feel what you feel.

And then I want to write it all down.


Alison Tyler is the author of more than twenty-five erotic novels, including the recent Dark Secret Love and The Delicious Torment. She has edited anthologies for Cleis Press, Harlequin, and Plume, and she runs her own Pretty Things Press. Visit her at alisontyler.blogspot.com and follow her on Twitter: @alisontyler.

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