Archive for January, 2014

No Stupid (Kink) Questions: Episode 22 – Deference with Strangers

January 8th, 2014 Comments off

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 22:

I identify as a submissive. A while ago, I met a dominant couple, and we’re pretty good friends, now. The trouble is, they’re always bossing me around. When I brought it up to them, they said that’s just something I have to deal with if I want to be submissive, and that, as a submissive, I should defer to all dominants in all things. I don’t really want to submit to them, and I definitely don’t want to submit to perfect strangers who call themselves dominants. Does that mean I’m not submissive?

First things first: ditch the friends. They’re full of shit, and have no concept of consent as it applies to kink. Besides that, if they’re bossing you around without your consent, and telling you “that’s just what submission is about” when you protest, they are violating your rights and boundaries, which, in my mind, shows that they have no respect for you or your friendship. Read more…

Product Review: Anaconda by @Tantus

January 7th, 2014 7 comments

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Ooo, what’s that?

anacondaMaybe I mentioned that I’m a Tantus fan a time or two? Like, a giant freakin’ Tantus fan who wants to have all the Tantus things!

It started with butt plugs, and totally by accident. We were shopping around for something that was not jelly because we had just learned the hard way how truly horrid jelly is, and we found the Tantus Zing. And while I didn’t like the Zing, I freakin’ loved the silicone. And thus, a Tantus fan was born.

If you haven’t figured it out by now, that’s none other than the Anaconda from Tantus. Isn’t he beautiful? Read more…

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Could feminazis be more ridiculous?

January 4th, 2014 Comments off

Youre-dumbOkay, so…this is nothing more than a short rant about feminazis.

For the record, when I say “feminazis,” I am not using the term to encompass all feminism. There are plenty of feminists and feminist allies who are in it for “the right reasons,” and I think they are amazing for all they do. Over all, I have no issues with feminism in its purist form, because I believe that true feminism is about giving women a choice, and elevating them to a status equal to that of men in all things, rather than dictating their lives for them or elevating them to a place of power over men. When I use the term “feminazis,” I’m discussing feminists and feminist allies whose activism is more about the latter.


Have you heard about the movie Her? It’s about a man who falls in love with his operating system, which is coded to meet his every need. So, in essence, the entire point of the movie is that the female character the man falls in love with is unrealistic and doesn’t exist.

Damn if a feminazi or two isn’t bitching that the movie doesn’t present a single realistic female character.

I mean, come on, y’all. Seriously?

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Product Review: Neo by @Tantus

January 3rd, 2014 7 comments

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Ooo, what’s that?

neoThat? Oh, that’s just one of the most comfortable anal plugs I’ve ever used. No joke. It’s called Neo and it’s from Tantus.

How’s it made?

Insertable Diameter
Neo 4″ 1.4″
B Bomb 3.25″ 1.25″
Ryder 4″ 1.5″

The Tantus Neo is made of 100% pure platinum silicone. This means it’s nonporous, and completely body safe. The fact that it’s a butt plug makes this a major plus. Nonporous means that it won’t retain ass smells, and you can disinfect it.

The base is not flared as much as most other plugs, but it is not unsafe. In fact, the design of this base prevents chafing, and comfortably keeps the plug from sliding inside of you. And the neck is long enough that people who have thicker anal muscles, and need a bit of extra space, will enjoy this anal plug as well. Read more…

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