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Melen’s Birthday Question Answers! (part 2)

October 28th, 2013 Comments off
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Melen’s passion is photography. This is pic he took of a nearby house that was owned by collie breeders and was abandoned after a fire broke out in the kitchen. The house was still decked out in 70s garb. Click to enlarge.

The second installment of answers to questions you asked Melen for his birthday giveaway. Find the first installment here.

PropertyofPotter asked:

What’s your favorite season and why?

I guess fall, if I had to pick one. I like each season for different reasons. Spring because everything is starting to grow. Summer because, well, that’s a no brainer. I live in Upstate NY, so fall is awesome with the leaves changing color. And winter because it gives me a better appreciation for the other 3 seasons.

Do you still have fantasies that have yet to be fulfilled?

Always. I figure once you fulfill a fantasy, might as well replace it with something else. At the moment, those fantasies involve rayne and another girl. I haven’t met the right girl yet, tho.

Do you have a bucket list (sexual or otherwise)?

Not really. I’m horrible at keeping lists. I’m even worse at following them. Read more…

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Love, or Lack Thereof, for an Abuser

October 26th, 2013 3 comments

image by Melen - click to enlarge

image by Melen – click to enlarge

The other day, when I was melting down, I said something like, “If you believe my ex, I ruined his life, too, until he got away from me.”

As if I should ever use my ex’s assessment as a testament to reality.

Later, when we’d managed to swing my head around to the way I should be facing, M expressed his concern.

“Why do you think about him so much?”

I didn’t want to answer the question. I mean, who would? No matter what the answer, the end result is I’m focused on my past and allowing an asshole to control my emotional state without even trying. I mean, I haven’t even spoken to him in at least 5 years, and I steady have nightmares about the shit he put me through, and the narrowly escaped shit he almost put me through. Read more…

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Product Review: Thrill by @WeVibe

October 25th, 2013 5 comments

Thrill by We-Vibe Product PhotoPlease note: If you plan to buy something through the links on this site in the interest of helping us out financially, please make sure you clear your cookies before making any purchases. This will ensure we get credit for your purchase. Thanks! We appreciate you!

Ooo, what’s that?

You’ve read my review of the We-Vibe Touch. It’s good stuff. The toy, not the review. I mean, the review, too, if I do say so myself, but that’s rude so let’s just pretend I didn’t say so myself. Or something.

ANYway…the other toy in the pic is the We-Vibe Thrill. I was kinda worried about trying it at first, because a few reviewers have had issues with it. But as is usually the case, I was reminded that vaginas are each their own lady, and finicky to boot. And my vagina gives the Thrill a very enthusiastic clit up. Read more…

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Product Review: Echo w/Handle by @Tantus

October 23rd, 2013 4 comments

EchoPlease note: If you plan to buy something through the links on this site in the interest of helping us out financially, please make sure you clear your cookies before making any purchases. This will ensure we get credit for your purchase. Thanks! We appreciate you!

Ooo, what’s that?

From the very first time I saw a dildo with a handle, I wanted one. I’m a big girl, and I’m not very flexible (never have been), and I’ve got arthritis in damn near every joint in my body, so masturbating with shorter dildos can be uncomfortable, or even painful. My arms get tired and start to ache because of the awkward angle. My hands cramp. I can’t always get into that perfect position that allows me to reach all my spots because of the aches and pains.

You best believe I was all over these handled dildos from Tantus when I saw them. That one’s the Echo. And it’s pretty spectacular. But then, it’s Tantus, so you knew I’d love it. Read more…

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No Stupid (Kink) Questions: Episode 16 – You’re the master! (revisited)

October 22nd, 2013 Comments off

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 16:

I’ve got this slave. I love it more than anything, and I’d love to keep it around. But it keeps ignoring the rules. I mean, I’m the owner. Shouldn’t my slave be doing at least some of what I say?

Disclaimer: Using “it” to refer to the slave in this article is my way of keeping it gender neutral.

Why, yes! You have read my answer to this question before. You can find the original post here: NS(K)Q: Episode 16 – You’re the master!

Here’s the thing. Back when I first wrote the post, in December of 2011, some folks had some concerns about my answer. At the time, I was riled about…something (fuck if I remember what), and couldn’t really see their point. Plus, it kinda felt like some folks were reading things into what I said that weren’t there. It happens. I do it sometimes. I may have done it with that post about Dan Savage’s opinion on monogamy. I make no secret of the fact that cheating is a trigger for me.

After reading the post and the comments again, I wasn’t sure it worked as a standalone piece, so I wanted to do a part two, of sorts, to iron some things out. Because I’m lazy, I’m going to use the comments on the OP to direct this revisit. Read more…

Melen’s Birthday Questions Answered! (Part 1)

October 17th, 2013 2 comments
M plays around with 3D graphic programs from time to time. This is one of the fractals he's made. Click to enlarge.

M plays around with 3D graphic programs from time to time. This is one of the fractals he’s made. Click to enlarge.

Here are some answers to some of the questions you asked Melen for his birthday giveaway!

Camryn asked:

Why do you believe women should be submissive to men?

This is a difficult question to answer. At least in the beginning, it was upbringing and religion. I was brought up that the man was the bread winner and that the woman handled the children and the house. Wives obeyed their husbands and all of that. Obviously, that isn’t very realistic these days, for many reasons, not the least of which is that many families (couples, or whatnot) can’t survive on only one paycheck.

I guess now it’s just part of my “kink”. I’m a heterosexual male, a bit of a sadist and control freak. So, for me, women being submissive fits into my view of life.

This question is deserving of an entire post, after much thought on how to present what I’m thinking. I will say this, tho. I don’t have a problem with male submissives. I do not think all men are dominant and all women are submissive. I have never had a problem with a woman as a boss, as long as she’s qualified. I have no issues with working with a woman as an equal, outside of the bedroom anyway.

As with most things, my opinion is constantly evolving. Read more…

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