Archive for August, 2013

“No Limits” Is No Badge Of Honor

August 30th, 2013 2 comments

Happy_birthday_to_me_by_Melens_rayneI don’t have limits. Let’s talk about what that means.

I’m owned by Melen, and with that, I gave him the right to decide what I will and will not do. I flat out said, “I will do anything you want me to.”

He said, “Don’t say that if you don’t mean it.”

I said, “I mean it.”

Of course, there are things that I know he will never do. Read more…

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Product Review: Rattan Cane with Suede Handle 30″ by @Stockroom_com

August 29th, 2013 Comments off

Ooo, what’s that?

Recently, a few people have asked me about a good cane to start with. I always cringe when I’m asked this because canes are no joke. I don’t want people to come back to me all, “You said this was a good cane, but all it did was hurt!” all stompy, and whiny, and stuff, so I almost always preface my answer with extremely patronizing questions like, “You do realize canes hurt, right?” and “Have you been spanked before?” and “Are you sure you’re a masochist?” People probably think I’m an asshole, but I’m just looking out for you, man!

But I guess every newbie kinkster’s gotta start somewhere. If I had to suggest a place to start, this would be it. It’s the 30″ Rattan Cane with Suede Handle by Stockroom. And it is glorious.

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Product Review: Short Locking Curved Posture Collar in Purple Leather with Black Trim by @Stockroom_com

August 28th, 2013 Comments off

Ooo, what’s that?

So you remember my review of the wrist and ankle cuffs from Stockroom? Aren’t they pretty? Remember I said they had matching collars? This is one of them. It’s the Short Locking Curved Posture Collar in Purple Leather with Black Trim from Isn’t it gorgeous?

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What’re you doing?

August 28th, 2013 Comments off

“What’re you doing?” he asks, obviously perplexed.

“What do you mean what am I doing?”

“I mean bake a cake. I mean what are you doing?!”

“…I’m answering comments on Insatiable Desire.”


“I’m cleaning the crumbs out of it…this is why I asked what you meant.”

Does it count as being “kept” if you do all the housework?

August 27th, 2013 4 comments

imageNot long after we moved to New York, my ex was arrested and convicted of selling marijuana to minors. The kid who snitched was a 17-year-old with a promising sports career, a week from his eighteenth birthday, trying to get out of a possession charge. My ex was far from the big-time thug he was in Virginia, but we lived in a tiny town and the town government was afraid of him and all he represented.

They posted his name in the paper, which was not something they typically did, but they wanted us out of their town, and the best way to do that, they thought, was to make it impossible for us to live there. Unfortunately, the only thing they accomplished was making it impossible for me to find work or shelter with which to raise my children. I mean, my ex was in jail. By the time he got out, everyone had forgotten his name, and I’d finally managed to find a place after surfing on strangers’ couches with four children for a year.

It took literally losing everything we had (for the third or fourth time) in a fire for that to happen. The Red Cross probably saved our lives. Mine and my kids’, anyway. Their father was still in prison. You should donate to the Red Cross every chance you get. We do.

This was also the third or fourth time I’d found myself homeless because of something my ex did, and there were times when I couldn’t find a place to crash. So when I met Master, and before we even discussed BDSM beyond my acknowledging his interest in it, two of my hard limits were having stable finances and a place to live. Read more…

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No Stupid (Kink) Questions: Episode 11 – Mentors

August 26th, 2013 6 comments

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 11:

I keep hearing that I should have a mentor. But this one person said it should be an experienced dominant, and another said it should be an experienced submissive. Some say it should be the same gender as me. Others say it should be the opposite. One lady said that if I go searching for a mentor, and I’m a submissive, I should find a dominant mentor. But if I’m a dominant, my mentor should be submissive. Other people say that’s wrong. I’m so confused! Help!

Oy. Do I feel for you.

A mentor is not necessary.

Let me say that again. A mentor is not necessary.

But some people find them helpful. And that’s okay, too. Read more…