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30 Days of Kink: Relationship Survival

June 26th, 2013 Comments off

30 Days of KinkFor the rest of this series, and links to others who have participated, click here.

Full prompt: What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy? How does it differ from a vanilla relationship?

Okay, so I read this prompt, and I got a little irritated. I really don’t get why so many kinksters feel the need to put their relationships in this special box marked “completely unique in every way”, because it’s just not true. Of course it’s not true. There are almost 7 BILLION people in the world. There ain’t nothing new under the sun, and your (our, the neighbors’, anyone’s) relationship is under the sun.

I’m sure that’s my problem. I’m sure the person who originally wrote these prompts didn’t mean for this prompt to sound elitist. And just because they consider the needs of a BDSM relationship to be different from those of a “vanilla” relationship doesn’t mean they think that “different” means “better”. But I’ve been at this for 10 1/2 years, and in those 10 1/2 years, if there’s one thing that hasn’t changed, it’s the elitist attitude that is prevalent among kinksters. Read more…