30 Days of Kink: Relationship Survival
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Full prompt: What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy? How does it differ from a vanilla relationship?
Okay, so I read this prompt, and I got a little irritated. I really don’t get why so many kinksters feel the need to put their relationships in this special box marked “completely unique in every way”, because it’s just not true. Of course it’s not true. There are almost 7 BILLION people in the world. There ain’t nothing new under the sun, and your (our, the neighbors’, anyone’s) relationship is under the sun.
I’m sure that’s my problem. I’m sure the person who originally wrote these prompts didn’t mean for this prompt to sound elitist. And just because they consider the needs of a BDSM relationship to be different from those of a “vanilla” relationship doesn’t mean they think that “different” means “better”. But I’ve been at this for 10 1/2 years, and in those 10 1/2 years, if there’s one thing that hasn’t changed, it’s the elitist attitude that is prevalent among kinksters. Read more…
30 Days of Kink: What misconception about kinky people would you most like to clear up?
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God, there are so many.
Kinky People Fallacy #1: All us submissive types are beaten into submission on a regular basis. We’d have to be to stay with the dominant types.
First, let me point out that there are quite a few of us who get off on being beaten into submission. One of my most delicious fantasies involves that very thing. But I’ll leave that for one of the prompts that asks about fantasies.
To be honest, I’m not sure it’s possible to beat me, and other masochists like me, into submission. At least, not in the “I just refused to do something M wanted me to do, so he’s gonna pound me into the pavement until I quit my bitching and do it.” sense of the phrase. Cause, like… We’d both get horny. And then we’d have to have sex. And then the whole point of him pounding me into the pavement will have been lost. Read more…
#SinfulSunday – Unsolicited Dick Pic…Only This One’s M!
Okay, so it’s just a penis. And it’s not a very good shot. But that, right there, is the first time M’s ever let me take a picture of his cock, much less post it on the Internet. So I think it’s worthy.
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e[lust] #47
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I’m fucking you, whether you’re wet or not.
“I don’t care if you don’t get wet. I’m fucking you anyway.” has been heard a time or two over the past few days. And he’s done just that. And then he pulls out the cane, or a flogger, or our new Tantus paddle, and wales on my ass, and suddenly I’m dripping down my leg.
Maybe I should edit the list of potential reasons I’m having issues with vaginal dryness, and add “I need a different kind of foreplay”?
So yesterday, Master greeted me with, “How is Daddy going to hurt you today? Because we all know it goes straight to your pussy.”
My body reacted to the words, but still I wasn’t wet. Not until he walked over and slapped me a few times before grabbing my hair and pulling my head back so that I could look at him.
“I guess I’ll just make sure you’re wet before I want to fuck you,” he said, and then he slapped me again. Read more…