Archive for April, 2013

I never asked for big boobs.

April 30th, 2013 3 comments

IMG_5410-In fact, I never wanted any boobs.

I can remember sitting in the auditorium, in second grade, listening to the guest speaker talking to us about the changes our bodies would be making, and suppressing anxiety-induced vomit.

It’s not that I have a problem with boobs, or that I wanted to be a boy. I don’t and I didn’t. I actually really like boobs on other people (I’m not even opposed to man boobs), and I remember thinking boys had it so much easier than us girls. I just didn’t want boobs of my own.  Read more…

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“Going Through Something”

April 25th, 2013 1 comment
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There’s this growing trend, when people are more agitated than usual, of just telling our friends, family, and acquaintances that we’re “going through something”, and leaving it at that. I don’t know if we don’t want to burden our loved ones, or if we don’t think what ever it is we’re “going through” is valid, or if social media and the Internet really are killing personal relationships so completely that we no longer feel we can talk to the people we call “friend”.

Well, I’ve been “going through something” for the past six months or more. And since I have a tendency to decide, on my own, that my problems are too much of a burden for anyone else to try to help me through, this trend is perfect for me. You know, if you ignore the fact that I really need to work through this shit so it stops coming back later and slamming my face to the mat.

And that’s what I’ve been going through. Old events and emotions forcing their way out of the recesses of my mind where I’ve hidden them away to protect myself, and kicking my fucking ass. This happens to me about once a year, and every year, I find something to busy myself with so that I’m “too busy” to deal with the skeletons in my closet. Work has become my cocaine.  Read more…

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The One Where I Face Reality (potentially triggering)

April 24th, 2013 2 comments

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This post may be triggering. Please read with caution. Take care of you. 

I used to vehemently deny that “rape culture” exists.

When people talked about how rape is so commonplace that it’s often treated as if it’s no big deal, or how, in some places, it’s even touted as a good thing, I would go off on long tangents about all the reasons those things weren’t the norm. I’d point out rapists who were given more jail time than murderers, and the fact that child molesters are often raped, assaulted, and even beaten to death in prison. I’d mention the guys who beat up one of their best friends because when we parted ways after I agreed to dance with him “as friends” (we were the only ones not dancing at a New Year bash), he began harassing me.

Then Steubenville happened. And Britni wrote this. And I started thinking about my past.  Read more…

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Insecurity: It’s not just a girl thing.

April 18th, 2013 1 comment

clitvibecompareI’m a freelance writer and editor. It started as a hobby, because I love to write, and has since become some semblance of a career. It ebbs and flows as most things in life do. But one thing that always remains constant is that the vast majority of the articles I write are focused on sex, sexuality, and relationships.

Everyone we know knows what I do, including our families. They know that I review sex toys, and that our collection toppled over the $3000 mark years ago. They know that if they don’t let us know they’re coming before they visit, they may have to blush through me rushing around the house to stow away giant black dildos, and teeny purple and white vibrators, and various “sex enhancers” of the bondage variety. And they know I won’t apologize for delving into “not-safe-for-work” territory (as long as we’re not at their work) because I stand firm on the belief that adults should be capable of discussing sex in appropriate venues without feeling ashamed or embarrassed.

Most of them think it’s the coolest thing ever. The women ask me all sorts of questions, from how to find their g-spot to which toy is my favorite. The men slap M on the back and congratulate him on his choice in women. Read more…

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e[lust] #45

April 16th, 2013 Comments off


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Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #46? Start with the newly updated rules, come back May 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

Bringing Toxic Sex Toy Facts Out of the Attic

How Do I Get My Wife to Dominate Me?

I Need This

~ Featured Posts (Molly’s Picks) ~

Speaking the unspeakable


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Sing a song of sixpence, pocket full of…dashes.

April 11th, 2013 1 comment


How about my week in dashes?

– Saturday was my birthday. We went hiking and ate ice cream cake. What the hell happened to Carvel? We’ll be getting our ice cream cakes locally from now on.

– I started my period on Saturday. Guess who didn’t get birthday spankings. I did get a lawnmower for my birthday. FROM MY LANDLORD. Best landlord ever. This move is proving to be pretty awesome.

Okay, so that’s not this week. Shut up. It’s my list.  Read more…

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