Archive for December 8th, 2010

No Stupid (Kink) Questions: Episode 6 – Ageism in BDSM?

December 8th, 2010 2 comments

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 6:

So, I’m looking around the FetLife community for my area, and there seems to be very few people in my age group.  Will I be fighting a losing battle? Or is age just a number in the BDSM community?

“The BDSM community” is just a bunch of people, with similar interests, who choose to occasionally make nice in the interest of camaraderie, or information sharing, or finding a date, or… Joe and Josephine Average in many cases.  So of course there will be those outside of your age group who are going to treat you as if you are irrelevant simply because you’re too old, or too young.  While I wouldn’t say the BDSM community corners the market on assholery, I won’t deny the fact that there are assholes lurking within our midst.  That’s life.  Read more…