Home > 30 Days of Kink, Guest Posts > 30 Days of Kink: Define Your Kinky Self by 3

30 Days of Kink: Define Your Kinky Self by 3

November 8th, 2010

Isn't she beautiful? ~swoon~

Rayne’s been bugging everyone for a guest post defining their kinky selves for the writing project Thirty Days of Kink. Next up, 3 from FetLife, and runs a small leather business called Nightmare Hides (Excuse the MySpace link. Website still in progress.).  Her stuff is pretty spectacular, so if you’re looking for some new leather, you should totally check her out.  One day, our budget will open up, and then I’m totally giving her my business.

Three’s Bio: Hi I’m 3, a 32-year-old artist and leatherworker. I’m a hedonistic, creative, and outspoken Aquarian, open to all the pleasure life has to offer. Having been in a D/s relationship for over 4 years now, I’ve never been happier!

Dom, sub, switch? What parts of BDSM interest you? Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us.

Switch/slave. I’m definitely not your garden-variety kinkster! People tell me almost every day, that a Switch can’t be a slave, etc. etc. I say Bullshit! I am a switch, have been a slave for 4 years, and I’m happier than I’ve ever been before in my life.

I submit to one man . . .my husband and Owner, Grendel. He is the only person that I trust more than myself. To me, trust is the foundation of a good Owner/slave relationship. 

To all others, I present as a dominant. I am sadistic, controlling, and enjoy being the Top or Domme in a scene very much. I’m outgoing, outspoken, tend to fall into leadership and mentoring roles naturally, and also tend to take control of a scene if the dominant is weak or I sense hesitation.

What part of BDSM interests me? I love power exchange. I love the feeling of giving over control to my Owner, letting him take responsibility for how and what I feel, the direction of the scene and of our lives together. It’s an incredibly freeing experience.

I love holding the power in a scene just as much. I love when the submissive gives his or herself over to me, becomes vulnerable, and trusts me with their well-being and pleasure. It’s a high that can’t be beat!

I’m a junkie for orgasm control and denial, both giving and receiving. If it’s being done to me, I have very conflicted love/hate feelings toward the person (usually Grendel) who is doing it . . . If I’m edging someone else, I get almost as turned on as they are. It’s a win/win situation!

Impact/pain play, electrical play, anal sex, sensory deprivation, rape play/consensual nonconsent, and breath play are my other favorites. I could go on for hours . . . my fetish list is a LONG one.

For me, BDSM is about hedonism. It’s about the active pursuit of pleasure, even if that pursuit leads down a dark and twisted path. The great thing for me is . . . I have someone I know I can always trust, to lead me down that path . . . and that’s Grendel. 🙂

  1. kinkybelle
    November 10th, 2010 at 11:08 | #1

    Great interview and gorgeous picture!

Comments are closed.
%d bloggers like this: