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e[lust] #20

September 29th, 2010 Comments off

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~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

On Making Sex Last: Cheerleading & Open Relationships – as long as the possession stuff can be fun and consensual, and not interfering with each other’s sovereignty, I think the two—cheerleading and possession—aren’t necessarily mutually exclusive.

Owned – I had almost forgotten that while here, with him, I was HIS plaything.  I was OWNED by him.  We had discussed this.  I knew the rules.  I must not forget again.

The sheer indecency of what we are doing – Is he looking for what I’m looking for? Surely so—all men want that, don’t they? A flaming succubus that comes only in the dark to bring unworldly pleasures and leave behind strange lingering dreams that spice their dutiful daytime lives.

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

Stop Hating on Campus Sex Education – Clearly, there is a need for this education, because if it doesn’t come from sexuality educators, it comes from word of mouth (which can often provide incorrect information), or from the internet, or from trial and error.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Is it Really “Strange” Sex?

See also: Pleasurists #96 and #97 for all your sex toy review needs.

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Pick me, Kink Academy! Please?

September 29th, 2010 2 comments

Part of the reason I’m sort of disappointed in M’s lack of interest in socializing with… well, anyone, really… is the learning experience.  Discussing different techniques, and trying new things, and sometimes things we’d never be able to try at home, and hands on experience, and… I mean, gosh! Doesn’t that just sound awesome?

I mean, yeah… M’s owned my ass for almost eight years.  We’ve got nine floggers, six paddles, two canes, two crops, a buggy whip, a strap, and a viper’s tongue.  Restraints, and hoods, and gags, and blindfolds.  Rope, and chains, and anal plugs, and clamps, and sex toys out the wazoo.

But you know what we don’t got? Skillz.  Read more…

Why’s being dependent on someone so damn scary?

September 29th, 2010 Comments off

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Or not.

I have permission.  And I suppose I could still benefit from a break.  While I’m nowhere near as messed up today, there’s still that tiny twinge of what could totally turn into another all out panic attack, and the tears that have been flowing freely for a few days keep tickling the backs of my eyelids.  But I think we’ve got a handle on at least a part of the cause.  And M’s planning on getting things under control.  Or so He says.

Consistency issues are a constant theme in our relationship.  On both our parts.  One of us slips, and the other goes tumbling after them, as if we’re tethered at the hip and can’t resist.

Both of us have issues doing what we say we’re going to.  Both of us lose interest in something if we don’t see results rather quickly.  Both of us are entirely too hard on ourselves. Read more…

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“You were a lot happier when I was consistent.”

September 28th, 2010 Comments off

And ya know, even though I started out freaking out about something else, when He started talking about the iron fist I keep hearing He’s gonna grab me with, I started to calm down.

And I think that’s the thing that bothers me the most.  Why’d He let it slip?

And did we ever get back to it like we’ve said countless times that we were going to?

This damn blog is getting so repetitive, and I’m starting to feel like a flake.

OMG life’s awesome! OMG I’m such a bitch! OMG I’m freaking out! OMG I hate feminists! OMG somebody was mean to me! OMG life’s awesome!


I think I’m gonna take some time.

Rayne out.

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Emotional train wreck? Where??

September 27th, 2010 Comments off

Dear Cabbie, "With groceries" is my polite way of saying, "Get here before my burgers thaw."

I’ve got a bit of entitlement syndrome going on, lately.  You’d think a person who has so little would learn to appreciate what they have, rather than develop the belief that they’re entitled to something more.

For example, the most heard phrase in this house, of late, is “Did you really have to be nasty about it?” Out of my mouth, not M’s.  Though both of us have taken to snapping rather than speaking when we get frustrated or annoyed.  Chalk it up to the financial stress we’re under, and my new found hatred of SEO.  Because it is imperative one hate something one does not understand!

Somewhere along the line, I got the impression that I’m not allowed to have an opinion, or emotions, or get annoyed, or… Not in our relationship, but in life in general.  Probably because I’ve always responded to negative emotions with screaming, and rather than help me develop better coping mechanisms, my mother would just let me scream, and send me on my way when I was finished without helping me “fix”, for lack of a better word, my problem, and my father would refuse to listen to me until I calmed down.  But even as a child, I’d get so worked up that I couldn’t calm down, and things weren’t making sense.   Read more…

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Product Review: Siri by LELO

September 24th, 2010 2 comments

Ooo, what’s that?

Before Siri, the only LELO I owned was Ella.  At first, Ella was amazing.  These days, she never leaves my silicone bag.  Ever.  I’ve been having too much fun with all the Tantus toys I’ve got.

I kept hearing how LELO vibrators would probably be too weak for me.  And I mean, let’s face it.  No one wants to spend that much money, even in gift cards, on a toy it turns out they hate.  So I put off trying them.  And I put it off.  And I put it off… Read more…

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