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Do you have to go public to be a kinkster?

July 19th, 2010 1 comment
Hot and kinky

by Rachel Kramer Bussel

(Fair warning: At some point during the night, I began writing this post in my head, and I had a distinct direction for it.  This morning, my direction’s a little fuzzy.  So please excuse the rambliness.  Also, before it gets twisted, this is not meant to be aimed at my friend.  I’m discussing her opinion because it’s one held by many, not just her.)

I used to have this friend who was pretty active in her local community.  So much so that when there were demos, she would often be asked to be the guinea pig.  And because she was an exhibitionist and an attention whore, she’d always say yes, regardless of how she felt about the person running the demo.  It always made me chuckle when she came back from the event singing the person’s praises, even though she’d been ripping them to shreds in my IM box just hours before.

And not just their praises.  But her own praises as well.  Read more…

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Sex and Kink

July 19th, 2010 1 comment

Dweaver999 talks about the correlation between sex and kink.

A question that I’ve seen come up on blogs and forums before is just what is the relationship, if any, between sex and kink.  This question is of particular interest to me for reasons I’ll try to make clear.  To help show what I mean, I need to explain my personal history with kink, or BDSM.

The first time I encountered BDSM was in a true crime magazine.  I was 13 and delivering newspapers.  My route took me by the local newsstand and they had these magazines with scantily clad women on the front and blaring headlines about kidnappings, rapes and other crimes against women.  I found them fascinating, but you could hardly call it sexually arousing for me.

However, I shortly thereafter, had my first masturbation experience.  Needless to say, I masturbated a lot after that, though, there weren’t any fantasies involved.  At that age, a boy needs nothing, mentally to become aroused and reach orgasm.  It just took some stroking of the old cock, and wham, I was cumming.  Read more…

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