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That’s discrimination! -or- Two words I’m sick of hearing.

July 15th, 2010

My First Bitch:

Don’t you ever get bored of being offended? I mean, really.  I haven’t even completed the first paragraph of my post yet, and I’m willing to bet you’re already offended.  Doesn’t that seem kinda… silly? It’s gotta be stressful.  And exhausting!

I think the best phrase my parents taught me was “So what?” Which is usually followed by “That’s his problem.” As in, “Johnny just said you have a fat ass!” “Oh yeah?” “Yeah!” ~shrug~ “So what? That’s his problem.”

You should try it.  Go ahead.  Do it right now.  Here… I’ll help you out by reiterating my first paragraph:

Rayne says you get offended too easily and too often. So what? That’s her problem!

See how easy that is? 

My Second Bitch:

Did you know that if you’re not at all interested in same-sex sexual encounters, prefer not to watch someone talk about same-sex sexual encounters, and unfollow someone on Twitter because they’re talking about same-sex sexual encounters, you’re a homophobe?

No, really.  I read it on Twitter, so it must be true.

By that logic, I guess I’m a hazelnutophobe.  Because the smell of hazelnut eventually makes me sick, so I avoid establishments that prepare hazelnut coffee as one of their regular brews.

My Third Bitch:

Asking a woman to a) look out for her own safety, b) protect herself and c) avoid dangerous situations is rape-apologizing and victim-blaming. ~nods sagely~

I realize those of you screaming about “rape culture” are sitting there going, “Yeah… so?” And it really boggles the mind.  Because I’ve read most of your blogs a time or two.  And I’ve talked to a couple of you here and there on Twitter.  So I know you’re not as stupid as this theory makes you look.  And I really want to grab you by the shoulders and shake the shit out of you.

We tell our kids “Don’t talk to strangers.” and “Never accept a ride, or anything for that matter, from someone you don’t know.” to arm them with the knowledge they need to be safe when they’re out of our sight.  Is that kidnap-apologizing?

We put water wings and life vests on them until they learn how to swim so that if they accidentally get too deep, they won’t drown.  Is that drown-apologizing? Are we blaming our kids for inhaling too much water?

We make them look both ways before crossing the street because sometimes they’re too short for drivers to see over the hood of their car.  Is that accident-apologizing?

We make people who work in industrial zones, or on construction sites, or on the side of the highway wear orange vests and hardhats.  Are we apologizing for the idiots that don’t pay attention and run them over on occasion? Blaming the road crew for the idiots on the road? Blaming the construction worker who got knocked on the head by a tool that fell from the top of the building?

We tell people in natural disaster zones how to prepare for the weather.  Are we blaming them for Mother Nature?

“Survival of the fittest” has always been the way of nature.  Even human nature.  And whether you like it or not, part of being “the fittest” is avoiding danger and standing up for yourself.

My Fourth Bitch:

So let me get this straight.  You want me to be more knowledgeable and accepting about your gender identification, and your sexuality, but asking questions about it is offensive and annoying?


You do realize that in the short time I’ve been blogging, the terms used to discuss transgendered people have changed at least twice, right? And back in the day, queer meant gay, not “I like everyone regardless of biological or emotional gender.”  So I’m really not surprised people ask you, “What’s the difference?”

My Fifth Bitch:

While at first I thought it was cute that people had begun treating Twitter like their bedroom, I’ve really about had my fill of public sexting on Twitter.  Which sucks.  Because I like most of the people I follow who sext occasionally.

But seriously? Would you fuck on the sidewalk?

Maybe some of you would.  But where I come from, that’ll land your ass in jail, because it’s considered indecent.  And honestly? I don’t see making it okay for people to fuck on the sidewalk as a sex-positivity thing.  Because regardless, there are still STIs and some of them are deadly.  And that’s just the beginning of reasons not to make fucking on the sidewalk okay.

I suppose that could be alleviated by setting up filters.  But I’m almost positive that would block half the shit my tweeps say.  And that would sort of defeat the purpose.

I guess that’s all the bitching I’ve got for you for today.  Thanks for listening!

P.S. I originally labeled the bitches Bitch #1, Bitch #2, etc. but I figured someone would think that meant I was calling the people who said the things I was bitching about bitches.  So I changed it.  See my first bitch for how I feel about it.

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  1. July 15th, 2010 at 19:09 | #1


    Keep right on ranting, I’ll gladly cheer and share it on my blog!

  2. July 15th, 2010 at 19:30 | #2

    @Theresa Lol. Thanks! 🙂

  3. July 15th, 2010 at 19:50 | #3

    Holy hell, woman, I nearly choked to death on a glass of wine. (It’s not dying in a fire but it was close. Sorry to disappoint some of you!) Drown-apologizing? It’s probably a good thing you didn’t TELL me not to read your blog today whilst drinking or you’d have been doing just that.

    And, dude, I totally HATE listening / reading people talk about make-up. I? Am a make-up-phobe. Also? Scat-o-phobe and a vomit-phobe. And? I totally unfollow marketers and spammers. I’m a spam-o-phobe. In more ways than one, since I hate Spam, too.


    Perhaps I SHOULD have choked to death.

    I’m so full of hatred and intolerance, not wanting to be surrounded by things I don’t like, choosing what I want to read about. It’s horrible of me. Horrible.

  4. July 15th, 2010 at 20:02 | #4

    I think I just came. Seriously.

    Now I’m just waiting for the stupid comments from the offended. They’re gonna comment, you know, and will fail to grasp the irony. Much like how they fail at logic, common sense, and self-preservation techniques.

    The funny thing is, Carrie, is that THEY are the ones who are full of hatred and intolerance for people with viewpoints different than their own self-indulgent ones. Again, though, they’re too thick-headed to see this and will instead turn it around on others. Like Ron White says, “You can’t fix stupid.”

    Rayne, if you weren’t married, I’d totally snatch you up. 🙂

  5. Jul!a
    July 15th, 2010 at 20:12 | #5

    I’m with Kristi on waiting for the stupid comments, but like you said, them being offended will be their problem. 😀

  6. July 15th, 2010 at 20:30 | #6

    This is totally hilarious (if it wasn’t so funny) and possibly the most intelligent thing I’ve read all week. I have a long story to tell, but will spare you all. Maybe I’ll post about it. But I remember one of my teachers saying how we should take care of the “victims” in the world, and I replied… No-one’s a victim unless they want to be. By that I meant, I refused to be a victim or victimized, and although I came from hard beings where people would shoot you as soon as look at you, I refused to let them dominate me.

    I do think we have choices. God knows I’ve made lots of bad ones. But I blame myself, not someone else. My mother taught me better than that, and if I ignore her and choose to be a victim, then bad things will probably happen to me.

    And even when they do and its not my fault, well I get mad and make sure it doesn’t happen again. I’ve been raped and taken advantage of sure. it sucked Big Time and took me a while to get over. But try it again motherfucker and see what happens now. Either you or me is going down and it won’t be pretty.

    I guess this is a partial post.

    Thanks Rayne for making us think! You rock GRRL!

  7. July 15th, 2010 at 20:43 | #7

    Kristi just made me lol with the ‘fail at self-preservation’ remark.

    All of this is what has been playing in my head all week long. A whole lot of ‘why…that just makes no sense at all…’. Love. this. post.

  8. Missy
    July 15th, 2010 at 20:51 | #8

    Totally agree with #4. Well, all of them really but especially #4. I had a close friend when I was in high school/early 20’s that was MTF transgendered, but even then she made it clear that it was unacceptable to ask “silly questions” so I just bit my tongue. I still have questions, yet still bite my tongue and they stay unanswered because I don’t want to offend anyone by asking them. It does get annoying.

    p.s I put Hazelnut coffeemate in my coffee every morning. Better run, you hazelnutophobe! Strangely enough I don’t like Hazelnut coffee too much, it has to be the creamer.

  9. July 16th, 2010 at 10:49 | #9

    @Carrie Ann Oh noes! I’m a drownist! And a drown-apologist because I totally apologize for almost making you drown. Lol.

    @Kristi I knew that already. <3

    @Jul!a Lol. Well, thank you for the non-stupid comment. 🙂

    @DominaDoll Yeah, that’s how I feel, too. And thanks! 🙂

    @Sarahbear Yeah… a lot of it makes no sense. Thanks! 🙂

    @Missy I get frustrated because I don’t even feel comfortable asking how they identify anymore. And I’ll have to remember to stay away when you have your coffee! Lol.

  10. July 19th, 2010 at 13:17 | #10


    Have you been reading my mind? Those are so right on. The whole, “questions are offensive,” thing is especially irritating to me, a teacher. I’m just the opposite, and believe that there’s no such thing as a stupid question.


  11. August 4th, 2010 at 11:08 | #11

    Here, Here.

  12. August 4th, 2010 at 14:52 | #12

    You had me with the first sentence. I used to actually think those very words on a regular basis. Now I’m beyond that and just think, “Ugh! Not again.”

  13. December 23rd, 2010 at 10:21 | #13

    @dweaver999 Lol. Yeah, people bagging on people for asking questions frustrates me to no end.

    @Marc Nobbs 🙂

    @Luna O. LOL! Yeah… Round and round it goes.

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