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Pansexual? What’s that? (Or “If You Breathe and Can Give Consent…) – A Reposting

January 18th, 2010

I admit I don’t really keep up on the lingo when it comes to new terms for things.  With regard to sexuality, heterosexual, homosexual and bisexual were it for me, until recently.  And when I finally heard the term “[[pansexual]]”, I didn’t make much of an effort to learn what it was.  Until Saynine, a friend from FetLife and Twitter, posted about his pansexuality.  I’m reposting it here, with his permission, to give those of our readers who, like me, have no clue an idea of what it means to be “pansexual”.  Thanks, Saynine!

When Jewelgen and I decided to explore ideas of being Poly and playing with other people we discussed many different scenarios. It is a comfortable way to work through ideas and fears. We did a lot of “What If” and then answered each other honestly. It was a way to discover each others comfort levels and I think both of us were surprised with how easy it felt.

@jewelgen mentioned that she was interested in exploring with women, and I was not at all surprised. She had never mentioned an interest in Women but I suspected that she was open to the idea.

But nagging in the back of my head was something that I knew we had to talk about. I had realized long before that I was sexually attracted to many different types of folks, including Males, Trans people, and other genders. However I had never expressed this to Jewelgen. It took me a few weeks but I finally told her. I wasn’t worried about her response. I had seen her drooling of gay porn and I knew she had a definite kink for seeing men together.

My concerns when I really thought about it were less tangible, but I think what I felt was that once I put it to words I could no longer deny it. I would never feel OK not being upfront about it after that.

Of course Jewelgen took it as I knew she would, with great support and no concerns.

When I really started thinking about what I was, Bi-Sexual just didn’t seem to describe what I felt like. In my mind Bi-Sexual is someone who bonds emotionally as well as being sexually attracted to males and females. But this didn’t really describe how I felt. While sexually attracted to all genders I do not feel the emotional bond I do with females. A little reading lead me to the term Pansexual . It seemed to encompass my sexual attitude.

At a munch we sometime attend introductions are made around the room. When they get to me I sometimes say “I am a Pansexual Dom, which means if you breathe and can give consent, I will beat you and fuck you”

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  1. January 18th, 2010 at 11:00 | #1

    I dabbled with being pansexual but have decided being bisexual is fine. I’m into men 70%, women 30%, some gender blending but mostly drag kings and butch women, all ethnicities, and even select furry beasts.

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